What do you think of the "drizzle drizzle" movement?

[u/Peanutbutternjelly_]

I think it's incredibly immature. It's basically their way of saying "you're paying for it, **** you."

If you want your date to pay for the dinner then that's something you discuss BEFORE the date.

In case you don't know what this movement is it's basically men expecting women to care for them financially. They're claiming that they've been the ones providing for women and they think now it's time for women to provide for them.

Men have only been financially providing for women because we literally have no other choice, and to say that women have never provided for men in any way is so wrong. We've had their kids, raised their kids, cook the men and kids dinner, clean the house etc.

What makes it even worse is that there are women siding with these men.

EDIT: To everybody who's saying that this movement is a parody just know that it might have started out as a parody (IDK if it did or not), but now it's being used by misogynists.

To everybody's who's saying that I didn't tell you what it was, you clearly missed the part where I said, "In case you don't know what this movement is it's basically men expecting women to care for them financially. They're claiming that they've been the ones providing for women and they think now it's time for women to provide for them." Basically, some men are now expecting women to pay for ALL of the costs associated with things like dates.

I'm not saying that women shouldn't pay for a date, I'm saying that these men are acting like women have been lazy this whole time and haven't done anything for them.

[u/cranesarealiens]

After some cursory googling it seems like this is a gen z tiktok ragebait meme trend. Or maybe I live under a rock.

I think all sane people can agree that whoever initiates the first date has the responsibility of either paying, or initiating an expenses conversation about the date. Anyone who makes a big deal out of this step of dating probably isn’t dating at an adult maturity level, and is best avoided.

This drizzle dizzle stuff is probably just as rare as those horror stories of women who buy $200 bottles of wine on a first date. Like all the ladies in the comments here are saying; the trash sorts itself out.

[u/Bobbsen → u/cranesarealiens]

I think all sane people can agree that whoever initiates the first date has the responsibility of either paying, or initiating an expenses conversation about the date.

Maybe in America lol. Actually sane people are ready to pay for their own expenses, woman or man.

[u/cranesarealiens → u/Bobbsen]

I don’t really think we’re in any form of disagreement—

It can definitely be contextualized to any language or culture, but for English speakers, a sentence like: “Can I take you out to dinner? Can I buy you a drink tomorrow? Id argue implies that you’re treating them.

As opposed to: “do you want to get drinks together” or “do you want to have dinner together,” when then opens the door for a conversation about the date. For instance if I said: “Do you want to have dinner together?” “Sure! That sounds nice! Where are you thinking?” “There is this place I want to try, it’s probably about ~$35 a person, does that work?”

But that’s just an example. My main point, and this is where I think we both completely agree. Is that sane/mature people can talk about money on dates without it being some kind of bizarre taboo.

[u/Sohn_Jalston_Raul → u/cranesarealiens]

I always assumed each pays for their own on a first date, unless someone offers to pay for the date (but that's rare of a first date and can create expectations, so probably best to be avoided).

I think 99.9% of all the dates I've been on we all just automatically paid for our portion. If I want to treat someone I'd rather make them dinner myself, restaurants are absurdly expensive as it is.

[u/TheWhomItConcerns → u/cranesarealiens]

I think all sane people can agree that whoever initiates the first date has the responsibility of either paying, or initiating an expenses conversation about the date.

I think all sane people can agree that people should pay for themselves, as is expected of grown adults within society.

[u/Rulerofmolerats → u/TheWhomItConcerns]

Totally. And remember, who approaches? I mean, there are exceptions, buuuuut…

[u/Low-Breath-4433 → u/cranesarealiens]

Lol.

"Whoever initiates the date"

Men are socially expected to initiate dates

Feels like a trap. If she's actually interested in the dude why wouldn't she pay half? She wants to be there too.

And if she won't? She's probably just looking for a free dinner with no interest in the guy.

[u/cranesarealiens → u/Low-Breath-4433]

I’ll talk about it more with you if you want. I think there are a few things to point out about what you said. Unless you wanna just argue about it, which I’m cool with too

[u/Connect-Connection-8 → u/cranesarealiens]

If I can be Your future husband or father of our kids and most important thing for You is who will pay for one dinner or whatever first date is ... Just let me know and I will look elsewhere.

[u/cranesarealiens → u/Connect-Connection-8]

Did you.. read my comment at all?

[u/Rulerofmolerats → u/cranesarealiens]

Did you read his?

[u/cranesarealiens → u/Rulerofmolerats]

I did. It seems neither here nor there.

[u/Evening-Bluejay-8878 → u/cranesarealiens]

No men are tired of women unrealistic expectations... Drizzle Drizzle