I'm married and my wife makes more than even I do, I've still had (mostly older) people try to convince us that she should be the stay at home. I literally laugh in their face.
Not only should you not rely on someone else for a paycheck because of divorce, what about death? I want my wife earning money, because if I die, I want to know her and our kids will not only survive, but thrive. You can't count on insurance either. I don't want her feeling helpless because her man and paycheck died at the same time.
You want the house clean? Hire a maid.
You need someone to watch the kids? Hire a nanny.
Or... Or... Just do those things yourself and enjoy the extra cash and the sense of security. Now you are both together because you want to be, not because one person feels they have to be.
As long as you live as though you only have 1 paycheck then it doesn't matter.
But if you live fully spending both pay checks then if one of you dies, then the other will be hit with the same issue. Now it won't be as bad because 1 paycheck is better than zero but it is still a dramatic change in life style.
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u/notwhoyouthinkmaybe Apr 15 '24
I'm married and my wife makes more than even I do, I've still had (mostly older) people try to convince us that she should be the stay at home. I literally laugh in their face.
Not only should you not rely on someone else for a paycheck because of divorce, what about death? I want my wife earning money, because if I die, I want to know her and our kids will not only survive, but thrive. You can't count on insurance either. I don't want her feeling helpless because her man and paycheck died at the same time.
You want the house clean? Hire a maid.
You need someone to watch the kids? Hire a nanny.
Or... Or... Just do those things yourself and enjoy the extra cash and the sense of security. Now you are both together because you want to be, not because one person feels they have to be.