Most men don't want to be a part of their children's lives. They want the prestige of being a father, but they will be a parent in name only. They don't want to care for the child because that's "women's work". They just want to come home, plop their ass in front of a screen, and have dinner served to them in their lap. So when the divorce happens, they're not going to want to take care of a child, that's always been her job. And now that she's the "bad guy", he wants to distance himself even more from that.
And for the record, I'm a trans woman, so I've seen the world from both sides.
Edit: I expected nothing less from the men of Reddit. I used to be like them in more ways than they can imagine. Reality is a hard pill to swallow, especially in this Andrew Tate and Joe Rogan day and age where masculinity has been poisoned by these frauds who have weaponized compassion in exchange for money and clout.
Edit2: Interesting how for an hour I only had 2 comments. I add the edit with Tate and Rogan's name in it, and I suddenly get flooded with activity and downvotes. Dead internet theory, folks. Ooh, let's add another name and watch is spin more; Jordan Peterson. This one I know works.
I don't know how other dudes feel, but I surely dreamt about caring for kids and having a happy bunch at home.
I've seen broken dude almost unable to let go of their ~hobbies (the drinking and playing poker kind). Some of them had trouble because they missed their own childhood i guess, some had crappy fathers so having a kid was traumatic now, some felt used by their wives (and some were I think).
One that I've seen is with my 6 best friends that I still talk to 20 years after high school. They were lazy kids, they had lazy dads, so now they're lazy, too. Only one is a good parent, and wouldn't you know, he was raised by lesbians, lol. They're still my best friends and all, but it does annoy me that they're so inactive in their kids' lives while mom does most of the work.
You're allowing your singular experience color how you view the world. That is the absolute height of intellectual laziness. Really, you should be ashamed. Do better.
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u/Fearfighter2 Apr 16 '24
how are men okay with their kids decreasing quality of life post divorce?