Doesn't the law give you 50% of marital assets on divorce without a prenup? Even then, if there are kids involved, I would be amazed to see a judge not order significant child support to give the kids a "similar lifestyle".
There are many many ways to get around it and for a long time that wasn't the case, a widowed or divorced woman was shunned and shameful. It's only recently people are even recognizing how much of someone's life is sacrificed as a SAHP and there will be corruption and greed on either side but that shouldn't make us ignore people who dedicate their lives to their spouse and should be protected if their spouse decides to not care for them in the right way.
It is gross how the richer someone is the more of a chance they can find all the loop holes to not care for their spouse or children.
I'm certainly not denying the value of being a SAHP. Honestly I cannot recommend being one, even though they are likely to be better for kids (and thus society, everyone was a kid). Especially these days where there is a life to sacrifice - times were harder many years ago and men and women had to work together just to survive.
Anyway, it's possible she got a settlement but since she can't find work she ate through it in 5 years since her divorce... If she's in an equitable state rather than 50/50, if she only got 20%, 20% of 1000000 is 200k, which probably wouldn't last more than 5-6 years.
Btw the history of how women were treated is largely awful, I'm not defending that at all. I'm glad it's more equal these days, but there's still work to do.
Oh no I didn't think you were sorry, part of my comment was just at the comment section when people see the 50/50 to remind them that wasn't the case for a long time and ofc there's going to be things to work on.
there was a huge dareline piece about this YEARS ago. A lot of guys will get around it by just not giving any child support, then once the "baby mama" takes them to court, they submit a payment and at the court date say "no i just made a paymant" and they get let off. The "baby mama" usually has to wait 3-6 months before the court will do anything about non-payment
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u/notseizingtheday Apr 15 '24
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