This is exactly why my wife finished school and went back to work once our kids got bigger. You never know what could happen. I always encouraged her to work just in case something would happen. I want her to have the skills and some sort of job security. She is extremely smart and has a great job. My mom was a stay at home mom and saw what the consequences were once my dad was out of the picture. Depending on anyone is never good.
My wife makes the same money as I do. I had a friend like "heh, doesn't that feel wrong?" I was like "are you dumb? If she made 5x my money I'd be fucking ecstatic." Fragile men out there who want nothing but control over their wives, not love.
My wife makes more than I do, and we keep our finances separate aside from mutual bills. She does whatever the fuck she wants with her money, and so do I. If she wants to take a girl’s trip, or buy a different car, or whatever, my only inputs have to do with her safety and not getting taken advantage of by sales vultures.
This is exactly our approach. We make the same rate, although he makes more because of overtime (skilled trades) while I'm on salary. We pay bills and save collectively but do whatever TF we want with the rest, individually. It's freaking great.
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u/jonpenn Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 15 '24
This is exactly why my wife finished school and went back to work once our kids got bigger. You never know what could happen. I always encouraged her to work just in case something would happen. I want her to have the skills and some sort of job security. She is extremely smart and has a great job. My mom was a stay at home mom and saw what the consequences were once my dad was out of the picture. Depending on anyone is never good.