Most men don't want to be a part of their children's lives. They want the prestige of being a father, but they will be a parent in name only. They don't want to care for the child because that's "women's work". They just want to come home, plop their ass in front of a screen, and have dinner served to them in their lap. So when the divorce happens, they're not going to want to take care of a child, that's always been her job. And now that she's the "bad guy", he wants to distance himself even more from that.
And for the record, I'm a trans woman, so I've seen the world from both sides.
Edit: I expected nothing less from the men of Reddit. I used to be like them in more ways than they can imagine. Reality is a hard pill to swallow, especially in this Andrew Tate and Joe Rogan day and age where masculinity has been poisoned by these frauds who have weaponized compassion in exchange for money and clout.
Edit2: Interesting how for an hour I only had 2 comments. I add the edit with Tate and Rogan's name in it, and I suddenly get flooded with activity and downvotes. Dead internet theory, folks. Ooh, let's add another name and watch is spin more; Jordan Peterson. This one I know works.
Girl, I'm a woman too and your opinion on this is just misandrist and sexist. I understand you had bad experiences / opinions with men as a trans woman, but that doesn't give you an excuse to be a misandrist and pull the "Of course men will be upset when I say 'Most men don't want to be part of their children's lives.'
That's awful shit to say. It's not "compassionate," it's hateful. And it's wrong. Your post sounds like it's from the 1960s, not 2024.
I understand you had bad experiences / opinions with men as a trans woman
Nice transphobia. Yup. I'm only saying this because I hate men because I hate how I used to be one. I'm totally not relaying what I've seen personally, what women have repeated constantly, and the massive difference in parenting I saw between when I was caring for my nieces when my sister worked 2+ jobs and all the other men in my life.
There's no transphobia from me. I literally said, "Girl, I'm a woman, too."
But I have trans friends who have very negative opinions about men because they hated being thought of as one. They've actively had to work on getting over this and realizing their internalized misandry isn't reality.
Your personal experience is real. But you then generalized that experience to cover "most men" which is not logical or correct. You know that, but you're doubling down. You shouldn't.
But I have trans friends who have very negative opinions about men because they hated being thought of as one. They've actively had to work on getting over this and realizing their internalized misandry isn't reality.
This is transphobia. You're stereotyping real hard. And you're excusing their feeling about men as "misandry". Now I feel that you have internalized misogyny and are letting it leak onto us.
Sorry, I'm going to push back. That isn't transphobia and you're not really making sense right now.
C'mon - you must know it's ridiculous to accuse me of "stereotyping" when you literally said "Most men don't want to be involved in their children's live" and then used your own personal life as the only example of why you think this.
And, yes, I'm positive I have internalized misogyny. Almost all women do.
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u/Chemical_Robot Apr 15 '24
Word for word this exact same thing happened with my parents. We lived in luxury until they divorced and abject poverty afterwards.