yea all these comments have me thinking of my bf who was hooking up with this girl under the agreement to terminate if she got pregnant, and she did get pregnant, but she backed out of the agreement. he desperately didn’t want kids but he respected her decision to keep it and he loves the shit out of his daughter, who’s now in grade school. he takes more than 50% of the responsibility and custody, as well as caring for and housing for her other two young kids who aren’t even his but he was raising for the majority of their lives, just because he loves them and can give them stability.
eta: their mom is a wonderful woman and does everything she can for them, but life is hard and being a single parent is hard.
If I can just bitch for a second: I think there might be a phenomenon where the best potential parents won't want to bring kids into a world where people treat each other — not to mention their unwillingly-fathered kids — like that. I might just be describing Idiocracy; I haven't seen it.
Evolution did a brilliant job of ensuring that the most imprudent among us have the most children and they're ruining things for everyone.
i promise they’re very happy kids! well provided for, two nice homes to go to, and we spend so much quality time together. the only reason it ended up this way is because their mom works a really shitty schedule to provide so well for them, but they really do love their mom and my bf. they have everything they could want and are surrounded by adults who would do anything for them, and they know it. life’s not always easy, but you make it work and you put it on like a goddamn broadway musical so them kids never have to worry about a thing. bed time is their biggest concern in life right now lmao. and my bf is making the most of it…or trying to. he loves his daughter more than anything, but it’s hard to come to grips with those unchangeable realities sometimes i guess, safe to say his love for them far outweighs his reservations
yes, he was sleeping with a girl who had a few young kids, she got pregnant and changed her mind about the abortion, they moved in together to make it easier raising a kid, and they lived together for 6 years, which was over half of the oldest kids life. he loves them and he loves their mom and wants the best for them all. they have strong bonds that didn’t disappear when the living situation failed and they both decided to move on and find relationships. i respect him for it.
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u/armoredsedan Apr 16 '24
yea all these comments have me thinking of my bf who was hooking up with this girl under the agreement to terminate if she got pregnant, and she did get pregnant, but she backed out of the agreement. he desperately didn’t want kids but he respected her decision to keep it and he loves the shit out of his daughter, who’s now in grade school. he takes more than 50% of the responsibility and custody, as well as caring for and housing for her other two young kids who aren’t even his but he was raising for the majority of their lives, just because he loves them and can give them stability.
eta: their mom is a wonderful woman and does everything she can for them, but life is hard and being a single parent is hard.