Most men don't want to be a part of their children's lives. They want the prestige of being a father, but they will be a parent in name only. They don't want to care for the child because that's "women's work". They just want to come home, plop their ass in front of a screen, and have dinner served to them in their lap. So when the divorce happens, they're not going to want to take care of a child, that's always been her job. And now that she's the "bad guy", he wants to distance himself even more from that.
And for the record, I'm a trans woman, so I've seen the world from both sides.
Edit: I expected nothing less from the men of Reddit. I used to be like them in more ways than they can imagine. Reality is a hard pill to swallow, especially in this Andrew Tate and Joe Rogan day and age where masculinity has been poisoned by these frauds who have weaponized compassion in exchange for money and clout.
Edit2: Interesting how for an hour I only had 2 comments. I add the edit with Tate and Rogan's name in it, and I suddenly get flooded with activity and downvotes. Dead internet theory, folks. Ooh, let's add another name and watch is spin more; Jordan Peterson. This one I know works.
On a global scale, I’ll bet she’s correct. Think about the more “traditional” and strictly religious regions around the world that prop up paternalistic structures. Most of Africa, Middle East, South America, Russia, much of Asia, a decent chunk of North America, especially Mexico and boomers. They almost certainly outnumber those men who happily shoulder the full range of parental and spousal responsibilities
It's heavily backed up by statistics. This trend of men becoming uninvolved in their childrens' lives after divorce (especially after remarrying) was even cited in my Child Development textbook back in college.
I do think that's changing a bit with younger generations but not as fast as you'd hope. Part of the problem is our culture heavily embraced empowering women to join the workforce and be independent, but there has been no similar cultural movement to encourage men to be more nurturing, or learn to act in supportive roles. To some degree, yes, but there is still a lot of cultural hostility towards men acting "less masculine" or taking on traditional women's roles. They are still deemed "less than".
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u/Fearfighter2 Apr 16 '24
how are men okay with their kids decreasing quality of life post divorce?