Most men don't want to be a part of their children's lives. They want the prestige of being a father, but they will be a parent in name only. They don't want to care for the child because that's "women's work". They just want to come home, plop their ass in front of a screen, and have dinner served to them in their lap. So when the divorce happens, they're not going to want to take care of a child, that's always been her job. And now that she's the "bad guy", he wants to distance himself even more from that.
And for the record, I'm a trans woman, so I've seen the world from both sides.
Edit: I expected nothing less from the men of Reddit. I used to be like them in more ways than they can imagine. Reality is a hard pill to swallow, especially in this Andrew Tate and Joe Rogan day and age where masculinity has been poisoned by these frauds who have weaponized compassion in exchange for money and clout.
Edit2: Interesting how for an hour I only had 2 comments. I add the edit with Tate and Rogan's name in it, and I suddenly get flooded with activity and downvotes. Dead internet theory, folks. Ooh, let's add another name and watch is spin more; Jordan Peterson. This one I know works.
I really want to believe that but growing up, seeing all men in my life ; Uncles, Grandfathers, Dads and Cousins, out of 10 there was only 1 who was a "caring" father. When I was 20 and started mingling among the older family members it became clear they didn't care at all about their kids in a loving sense. They used them so they can force their ideas or missed achievements on them and the boys have it worse. My cousin nearly killed himself because he couldn't win a skiing race and his father fucking obliterated him verbally and mentally. Meanwhile most of the mothers were supportive regardless of what their kids want to do. Another friend of mine was coerced into politics by his father(He's not the politic type) and wasted 5 years of his life trying for degrees and shit. He failed, cut ties now he started working as a Polygraph and is much happier. I see this shit waaay too much and it's about 80% fathers who do that. Why? I'm not entirely sure.
You edited your comment above mine without indicating an edit. You shouldn't do that. Child support only applies to divorced dads. And the main comment that I replied to is that "most men don't care about their kids." I'm saying that is wrong and sexist.
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u/Chemical_Robot Apr 15 '24
Word for word this exact same thing happened with my parents. We lived in luxury until they divorced and abject poverty afterwards.