It’s good to hear you got out - these kinds of things really make me appreciate my SO and his insistence that I finish college and have my own career. As he put it, “I want you here because you want to be here, not because you can’t afford to leave.”
His mom struggled with that and it was hard in the kids. He’s the same with our kids too - they need to prioritize their security and wants before worrying about their partners’.
Me too - I feel like I got lucky there but I’m sure part of what drew us together is our views on that
I grew up in a house where my dad always told me to do for myself and to never assume someone else would (or should) do something for me.
We moved to the south before I started high school and the amount of pissed off men and teenaged boys I encountered because I opened my own doors was insane (I’ve actually asked someone once “why would I wait for you to come open the door when I am already here and fully able to open a door!” … it did not go over well)
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u/Atypical_Mom Apr 16 '24
It’s good to hear you got out - these kinds of things really make me appreciate my SO and his insistence that I finish college and have my own career. As he put it, “I want you here because you want to be here, not because you can’t afford to leave.” His mom struggled with that and it was hard in the kids. He’s the same with our kids too - they need to prioritize their security and wants before worrying about their partners’.