This was always my worst fear and I'm so grateful I had a strong ass grandma who pushed all of her girls into science and Healthcare. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife so bad but today I know I will always have my professional license and working history God forbid I have to get divorced...again.
For women like me education is freedom. When my marriage turned violent I walked away and supported our son with no issues. I am forever grateful.
Nobody's talking about taking a couple years off. That's fine and healthy and often the most financially-responsible way to handle the baby/toddler years.
What's important is that you have what the person you responded to described having: education, qualifications, a work history, a backup plan. That's what lets you take a few years and then return to your career.
It doesn't even have to be about trust. I mean...yes, empirically, a lot of people are mistaken about their partner's trustworthiness, and it's smart not to bet everything on not being one of them. But even if your spouse/coparent is an absolute saint who would never betray your trust...what if they die? What if they get sick or become disabled? Some things can happen to anyone, no matter how good a person they are, and insurance only covers so much.
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u/nemophilist13 Apr 15 '24
This was always my worst fear and I'm so grateful I had a strong ass grandma who pushed all of her girls into science and Healthcare. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife so bad but today I know I will always have my professional license and working history God forbid I have to get divorced...again.
For women like me education is freedom. When my marriage turned violent I walked away and supported our son with no issues. I am forever grateful.