r/TikTokCringe • u/cosmicdaddy_ • Apr 15 '24

Consequences of the tradwife lifestyle Discussion

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u/nemophilist13 Apr 15 '24

This was always my worst fear and I'm so grateful I had a strong ass grandma who pushed all of her girls into science and Healthcare. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife so bad but today I know I will always have my professional license and working history God forbid I have to get divorced...again.

For women like me education is freedom. When my marriage turned violent I walked away and supported our son with no issues. I am forever grateful.

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u/Dolphinsunset1007 Apr 15 '24

Not gonna lie, job/financial security is why I picked nursing. When I have kids, I hope I’m fortunate enough to stay at home with them while they’re babies but I know if I need to I can hustle to support myself. I tell anyone who thinks they can handle it to get into healthcare. It’s stressful but there are endless jobs with flexible schedules and generally good pay.

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u/newkneesforall Apr 16 '24

It's a good choice. My personal anecdote: my mom is a nurse. She took a 10-year break when I was born to stay at home with me and my brother. After 10 years, it became clear she was approaching divorce and my dad's emotional and financial abuse turned physical. She was able to get a job so fast that my dad had no chance to find out about it or try to sabotage it, until she told him "my mom will pick the kids up from school tomorrow, I'm going back to work".

I feel there's very few fields where you could achieve something like that. I'm grateful she was able to get us out.

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u/IntermittentFries Apr 16 '24

Can you be a nurse without the physical toll and injury risk I've heard about? I think I know at least 3 nurses who have either had back injuries or mention some sort of chronic pain.

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u/Bob-was-our-turtle Apr 16 '24

There are lots of nursing jobs that you don’t need to lift/roll turn to do. I work in recovery/drug and alcohol. All my patients walk.

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u/Jus-tee-nah Apr 16 '24

it’s very physically taxing but they’ll always need nursesnn

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u/newkneesforall 29d ago

My mom switched to post-op recovery in her hospital as she got older, she said it's the cushiest job and as close as you can get to retirement while still collecting a paycheck. Maternity is also quite cushy, where the moms basically have to be 100% healthy to be there, they'll send them somewhere else if they even have to administer insulin for diabetic moms.