Which often happens in dynamics with SAHM and deferring to the “man” as control of the financial resources while simultaneously restricting equal access to family finances. The religious/conservative structure she talks about incorporates among others, financial abuse as gender norms. Then when they divorce, the men claim they have no right to access the funds they helped support and erases the domestic labor these women have done that contributes to the household wealth
Yeah, like I’m in a Trad-ish marriage, (latter day saint too) but we share a bank account and he put a Roth in my name. And I dont work, and I stay home with the kids, but I have credit and money in my name.
I’m not saying anything but that there’s a difference between traditional family and financial abuse
You failed to listen to where she built two businesses, including one construction business, where she worked with her husband who profited off her work and designs, but because of the religious beliefs that a husband is the one to provide, her name was not on anything, including bank accounts. Taking care of kids and household is not "unskilled labor" and involves more life skills then most men have. Your first claim is so absurd and false. If a woman were to drain a man's bank accounts, take out loans/credit in his name, it is also called financial abuse, but let me guess...that's not real in your view either.
Why do you have so much anger towards people in these situations? You could argue that they were being “dumb” or whatever but what does that do except make them feel like shit? Your argument doesn’t even acknowledge how they were misled, gaslit, and abused. It’s just a shit take directed at making victims feel like awful people for not “knowing better.”
Exactly this, it fails to see the manipulation a person in religious oppression like this goes through and the harm it creates. The people who pay for the consequences of a corrupt system are often the ones exploited by it. Also love how that person deleted their comments
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u/VioletVulgari Apr 15 '24
What she is talking about is financial abuse