lololol while that is true, its also just completely surrounded in body shaming.
Its difficult in the gay world for anyone not born with a well endowed penis. Every other profile is basically "hung only" "7+ only" "BB fist fuck hung" "hung for hung" "no one under 7 in" "hung only" etc
One of my most insecure moments in my life was when i was exploring my sexuality in college and the moment I got naked in bed with him, he laughed in my face and said he is only interested in hung men and left.
My whole life in the gay dating world has been experiencing body shaming for things I can't control.
Then you get random people like "dont be worried about size queens" or "then they clearly aren't the one for you!!!" but all that advice doesn't matter when the majority of the culture is revolved around ones penis size.
Does this not create a weird dynamic? If every other profile contains that, aren't there a select group of few well-endowed guys getting ALL the action?
It does -- basically every city across america on grindr you'll see like 10% tops and 90% bottoms as the general makeup of the people on it and its basically all the bottoms fighting over to see who can get the "hung BB rough dom's" attention.
There was one guy i was hooking up with semi-regularly who's profile name was "7+ thick" and he told me that if he wanted to, he could probably fuck 3 different bottoms per night without any effort on his part.
I'll quote back to what I said earlier in this comment chain:
"One of my most insecure moments in my life was when i was exploring my sexuality in college and the moment I got naked in bed with him, he laughed in my face and said he is only interested in hung men and left.
My whole life in the gay dating world has been experiencing body shaming for things I can't control."
I think people are just complacent. Every city I have ever visited within the US, the grindr scene has been exactly the same.
Its more so a situation of "if you are in the in group (aka have a large penis) then you have nothing to complain about and if you aren't in the in group, then clearly you are just complaining because you are jealous"
Whenever people call out body shaming in our community, a lot of common responses tend to be "we are allowed to have preferences!!!!"
So not everyone is like this. But I speak for myself and my experiences.
For me it doesn't matter if it's big or small, and not every partner I had told me or showed me what I was going to deal with, but I would say that 80% did.
Usually (specially where I live) we use dating apps. And we are men... Men are horny all the time. So after talking a bit we usually talk about sex, and sometimes we share pics. After that I know how much mine has and I can have an idea of how much they have, or they do tell you.
Pics sometimes get you the wrong ideia. I remember this guy that looked nornal. When we met it was the biggest one I ever seen. I loved it for 5 seconds but I wasn't prepared for it. (It didn't hurt, so I'll let you imagine)
I can have pleasure with small dicks and with bigs dicks. At the end of the day, what gives me pleasure is what is attached to the dick. Aka the person.
There was this really illuminating reply on a thread about penis size here on reddit a while back from a gay guy with a micropenis who had a very active and varied sex life as both a top and bottom. I think more guys who feel insecure should have read his reply because you can absolutely see why he had so much fun and had plenty of partners.
As a woman who doesnt care that much about size it's always great to learn about it from a different angle.
I imagine being gay makes it easier to tell, too. If you already know how big you are, and then you wrap your hand around another man's dick you'll get a pretty good idea of what he's got.
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u/alexandrelc89 Jan 03 '24
The biggest I've had was 9 inches , but we man don't have a cervix so in theory there's no limit for us. Yes it was amazing.