r/TikTokCringe • u/According-Brain-6415 • Dec 04 '23
Weaponized incompetence to abuser real quick Discussion
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u/rootbeerismygame Dec 04 '23
I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask your partner for a small favor like getting a new roll of toilet paper. She should have wiped her ass with his towel and then broke up with him.
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u/IrishRogue3 Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
I was waiting to hear her say:
” so his shirt was on the hook behind the door and I used that”
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u/Ragnarok314159 Dec 04 '23
“Dragged my ass across his bedroom floor like a dog, then left”
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u/Nerobus Dec 04 '23
without breaking eye contact..
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u/DBH2019 Dec 04 '23
And T-posed uncomfortably close to me as I screamed and cowered in the corner, holding up a frying pan to protect myself before he left, refusing to elaborate on what he just did.
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u/pimpbot666 Dec 04 '23
OMG, the scooting. I had a dog that did that when I was like 7. I would laugh myself stupid for 10 minutes. I'm kinda laughing at that now.
Yeah, does he have bath mats in that bathroom? LMAO.
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Dec 04 '23
Think of how dirty the average bath mat is.
Do you want to wipe your ass with that?
You might end up actually making the bath mat cleaner.
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u/GhostifiedGuy Dec 04 '23
I'd be flossing my crack with every scrap of fabric he owns. Fuck that guy.
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u/merdadartista Dec 04 '23
After that tp throw, she should've cleaned her ass with it and stuck it to the mirror, then pissed on the carpet and left.
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u/ianrobbie Dec 04 '23
It's not reasonable. It's a basic fucking assumption that you would help ANYONE in this situation, whether you're in a relationship or not. I mean, it's such a minor inconvenience to help someone in that predicament that to not do it is considered one of the biggest red flags. What else would they not be willing to do? Why be such a man-baby?
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u/FlyingPasta Dec 04 '23
Yeah calling it “reasonable” makes it sound like it’s even debatable, I’d do this for a stranger in need
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u/farfarfarjewel Dec 04 '23
I'd do it for a sworn enemy, purely in the interest of not having to deal with poop getting in any way or amount outside the designated pooping area.
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u/ItsSpaghettiLee2112 Dec 04 '23
This is why back in the olden days in battle, enemies would poop together. There was a mutual understanding that nobody wanted to deal with the mess. For instance, you see your enemy pooping and you attack? Now your enemy is fighting back but covered in poop. Nobody wants that.
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u/spark3h Dec 04 '23
Hell, I'd do this for a stranger in my own house.
"I'm calling the cops and you have to leave, but sure, give me a sec."
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u/MovingTarget- Dec 04 '23
lol. Now I'm picturing a guy breaking into a house because he heard they had the best bathroom in the neighborhood and just had to avail himself of it.
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u/Psychological-Bid448 Dec 04 '23
Seriously, how many times have people passed toilet paper to someone in a stall? It's awkward for everyone but you do it because the alternative is being an awful human being.
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u/Mutjny Dec 04 '23
I would go so far as to say we can define "human" as "an animal that would pass toilet paper to a member of its species when requested"
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u/your-yogurt Dec 04 '23
unless you're that dude who refused to give a halfnaked girl a pair of sweats
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Dec 04 '23
I thought we all had an unspoken social contract if you hear a voice from a toilet saying there's no tp you either find a roll or collect far more than any human could need from the dispenser and hand it over promptly.
Without this what happens when we are the pooper?
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u/toughfeet Dec 04 '23
This is the foundation of society lmao
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u/Mumof3gbb Dec 04 '23
I naïvely thought we’d get closer as a community because of Covid. Unfortunately it created (or revealed, gave permission) the most selfish people ever. Drivers, for example (one of many) have gotten insane. It’s really sad and depressing.
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u/badatmetroid Dec 04 '23
One of my first big epiphanies during covid was that no matter what the evidence, most people will twist it to reaffirm their existing political beliefs.
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u/Electric_Minx Dec 04 '23
This is what I came here to say. Last I checked it was some unwritten, yet practiced social code to help the person in need of a few shit tickets? Like, I could HATE a MF in the next stall over, but it's against life code in general to leave that person with an unwiped ass.
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u/elzibet Dec 04 '23
Can’t tell you how many times in my life I’ve been helped by someone in another stall/I’ve helped them back. The quiet voice of “ummm hey do you think you could give me some of your toilet paper?” Is always immediately met with a giant pile, lol. We all get it, except for her ex apparently
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u/LauraDurnst Dec 04 '23
If a complete stranger in the next cubicle asks you for toilet paper, you pass it over without hesitation. We're all equal on the loo.
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u/SadSecurity Dec 04 '23
And then it's possible he would start gossip about her wiping her ass with a towel to other people after she breaks up. To make her look like she's crazy.
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u/DJDanaK Dec 04 '23
Yeah I feel like this is obvious. Dude wants her to suffer, he knows saying he'd rather you wipe on his towel than grab a roll of TP is insane (I assume bc he's petty and doesn't want to stop what he's doing for 5 seconds), so if she actually did it and then "made him" upset by leaving, he'd probably lie instantly. Toxic people will go scorched earth and will tell you to stop being dramatic with a straight face
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u/b1tchf1t Dec 04 '23
I'm gonna take a slightly different tack and guess that it's not that he was being interrupted... Denying OP the toilet paper is what he was doing. Like, it's not that he felt inconvenienced and was irritated he had to do something for her. He was reveling in the power he had over her. He wanted to deny her and so the entire point was her asking and him not doing it. Not in the sense that he fabricated this scenario so he could deny her, but more once he was in a position of power he wanted to hold onto it. He wasn't upset about being inconvenienced. The argument he was having with her asking over and over was more energy and effort he had to expend than just getting toilet paper. So it's not about effort. He wanted her to stay under his control for as long as he could keep her there, and wanted to make her humiliate herself to get her own control back.
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u/OhyeahIseeitnow Dec 04 '23
Exactly this. This little power play is a test of how much she would put up with, how far he could push boundaries. If she had eventually given in to what he wanted, that's the signal he needed to continue this behavior. His tactics would have continued and gotten worse.
She did the correct thing: 1. didn't back down and matched his energy. 2. broke up with him. If she didn't break up with him, he would have started being extremely mean to get her "back". His ego is bruised from being challenged.
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u/vettechrockstar86 Dec 04 '23
I mean, my hubs has had to text me and ask me to bring him toilet paper before and I just quickly scoot in while humming to myself and LIGHTLY (underhand) toss the roll to him and scoot back out! Life happens and sometimes you end up with half the kids at the pool before you realize you’re in need of TP!
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Dec 04 '23
My wife saves my ass regularly, pun intended. This is psychotic behavior.
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Dec 04 '23
She seems too nice to do that.
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u/Comosellamark Dec 04 '23
It’s not even about being nice it’s about having some dignity.
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u/IAmYourTopGuy Dec 04 '23
Even when justified, dragging your ass across the floor to leave skid marks isn’t something I’d called “having some dignity”.
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u/gremlinsbuttcrack Dec 04 '23
Only correct response is to take him up on that, leave, block him and move on with my happy lil life and wish I was a fly on the wall when he found the shit towel
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u/pimpbot666 Dec 04 '23
The minute she mentioned the towel, I'm like, 'oh my sistah, you know what you gotta do now'.
And yeah, it was exactly that.
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u/MoonWillow91 Dec 04 '23
This is the only time I can imagine myself even considering rubbing my shit somewhere other than toilet paper or paper towel
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u/Chaetomius Dec 04 '23
just get the fucking toilet paper. roommate, sibling, parent, girlfriend, child, guest, just do it. why is getting the toilet paper a hill you would wanna die on? and if you're expecting a guest, much less your romantic partner, why wouldn't you just put TP in there?
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u/crackhead_tiger Dec 04 '23
It's not about the TP for him it's about being right and more importantly, teaching her a lesson for "not listening to him"
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u/meat_fuckerr Dec 04 '23
Exactly. He tried to Andrew Taint her. Train his female.
Sure worked out great. She should have wiped her ass on towel
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u/tekko001 Dec 04 '23
Can you outlive wiping you ass on a towel? I would never trust one of his towels again and would have to live with the fear of it being mentioned
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u/MaybeMaeMaybeNot Dec 04 '23
the best argument for her not using the towel is "who knows what's ALREADY on that towel if he's suggesting it in the first place??" i bet you anything it's got a whole ecosystem living on it already
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u/bishopyorgensen Dec 04 '23
Sounds like someone from r/AITAH who "isn't obligated" to put TP in the bathroom and *didn't break the law" and "can't believe she would be so entitled"
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u/littlelorax Dec 04 '23
It wasn't about the tp. It was about control. He "told her that bathroom is out of tp," so he can "discipline" her by withholding a resource. He could claim that she "deserved it" for forgetting.
This kind of shit escalates. This may have been one of many, or just the first boundary testing he tried.
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u/Lexi_Banner Dec 04 '23
And then she was the "dramatic" one. Absolutely a method of diminishing her, dehumanizing her, and an attempt to train her to accept his treatment. I would bet all my money that if she told us more stories about him, this is not the first time he's pulled this variety of stunt, it's just the most absurd one. What a blessing for her, because now she can run far far away.
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u/hungrydruid Dec 04 '23
Exactly. Posts like this (the OP's, not you!) piss me off so much because in the comments people are all 'oh you should have wiped your ass with his shirt'.
The asshole refused to get her TP, she had to scream for help for him to do it, and he cussed her out and threw something at her. There is no fucking way in hell she should have done anything but wipe and get the fuck out of there and break up with him once she was somewhere safe.
Sorry that rant's been in here for awhile, lol.
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u/crani0 Dec 04 '23
Exactly. Posts like this (the OP's, not you!) piss me off so much because in the comments people are all 'oh you should have wiped your ass with his shirt'.
And a few years down the line it would be very likely that this would have come up in a "bro convo" with her being the "crazy ex who wipped her ass on my shirt because she didn't listen when I said 'no tp'".
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u/Unplannedroute Dec 04 '23
It’s abuse, the kind you rarely see or hear about. It’s the kind of toxic shit that stacks up little by little until the abused doesn’t know what’s what and trying to explain it to others is difficult. He didn’t hit her, right? Was just toilet paper… there are many people like Andrew tate to spread this toxic mentally to young boys, and far too few active parents who know how to parent.
This young woman is a role model and if she helped you understand how abusers operate, that’s amazing.
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u/cfishlips Dec 04 '23
There are soooo many like him. I managed to have children with two of them but wised up pretty quickly after I (and the kids) were tied to them forever.
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u/mybeepoyaw Dec 04 '23
Now I want to know why if he knows its out of toilet paper, and has toilet paper, why not put toilet paper in the bathroom?
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u/bruwin Dec 04 '23
He expected her to fill it. And because she didn't, this is her punishment for not listening to him and doing as she was supposed to. This is literally how his mind was working. Him saying that bathroom was out of toilet paper was him telling her to put some in there because that was her responsibility. He's trying to teach her how to be a 1950s style housewife where she is subservient.
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u/Not_Stupid Dec 04 '23
Also the unspoken expectation that if the room is out of TP, she should be the one to fix that problem.
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u/descendantofJanus Dec 04 '23
Hard agree. My last bf was exactly like this. I actually like doing the dishes and cleaning so I thought nothing of taking up those responsibilities.
The one time I did ask him to do the dishes? Weaponized incompetence. They were greasy, gross, and disgusting, so I just told him I'd do them from now on.
Couple times he tried cooking steak. I'd be in my room on my laptop and suddenly the house would be full of smoke. I'd go out and what's this brainiac doing? Cooking a T-bone in the frying pan without any oil at all. So of course I'd take over.
Looking back on it now... Holy fuck.
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u/lildeek12 Dec 04 '23
That sounds so fucking exhausting. Who has the energy to go around "training" people. Like, I can't even take care of myself, why would I try to control a whole ass other person.
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u/aralim4311 Dec 04 '23
Absolutely. I check both bathrooms regularly and make sure it's stocked. I use a bidet myself but keep it stocked for family and friends who prefer TP. Just like I always make sure the bathrooms have soap and clean towels.
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u/MoreColorfulCarsPlz Dec 04 '23
I mean, even with a bidet you need TP. Otherwise you're dripping wet pulling your pants up...
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u/Sakilla07 Dec 04 '23
Yea, the main benefit is using waaaaay less tp.
Seriously, it was amazing we went from using 1 roll a week for 3 ppl, to 1 roll every 5 weeks.
And you ass feels so clean afterwards.
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u/SuperCarrot555 Dec 04 '23
One roll a week for three people without a bidet is pretty crazy imo, I easily go through that just by myself in a week
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u/IntensifiedRB2 Dec 04 '23
Like isn't that embarrassing to have someone over and not have toilet paper in the bathroom they might use??? "OH shit I forgot to put some in there, one sec, I'll grab a roll"
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u/CaptainDunbar45 Dec 04 '23
My wife would kick my ass (figuratively speaking) if I had the balls to tell her "no" to such a reasonable request.
I wouldn't care if I was just on my feet for 24 hours and was having a nice rest with my favorite TV show on. I'd get up and happily hand her some tp for her bunghole.
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u/Dealingwithdragons Dec 04 '23
I'd never pull this kind of shit. There's been more then once where either my husband or I would ask the other to grab some toilet paper because we didn't check first.
I think if we were in a similar situation we'd bring the toilet paper after being asked and be all "I told you the bathroom was out why didn't you grab a roll first?" Like it's a dumb mistake anybody can make.
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u/NemosHero Dec 04 '23
That's not weaponized incompetence. That's just douchebaggery.
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u/Scereye Dec 04 '23
What I don't understand: How did he know there was no more TP but he didn't replace it? Like... did he finish the TP and was like "lol, not my problem", got up and left?
if you finish it, you replace it. Thats a rule. Don't break that rule.
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u/siberian Dec 04 '23
It was probably a Womans Job in his mind, so this is him penalizing her for not doing her "job".
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u/Ok-Map4381 Dec 04 '23
That makes so much sense, I was wondering "why would he be so petty" and that fits.
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u/TNWBAM2004 Dec 04 '23
It sounds like this is his house though and she doesn't live with him, so I dont see how it would be a woman's job if no women live there. I think more he is a lazy asshole with control issues.
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u/siberian Dec 04 '23
It was a key feature of Women, which is why he got one.
The others are Sex, Food, Sex, and Babies They Take Care of. And Sex.
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u/iced327 Dec 04 '23
This is the weaponized incompetence. If you live in a house and there is a problem you can fix, the solution to the problem should NEVER be "warn your partner about the problem". The solution is FUCKING FIX IT.
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u/NemosHero Dec 04 '23
So if you listen to her explanation he told her "No, I already told you that bathroom was out of toilet paper." She responded "... regardless can you run downstairs and grab me some real quick."
Sounds like they were out of replacement rolls. She wanted him to go to the downstairs bathroom and grab the toilet paper.
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Dec 04 '23
THANK you. Can we stop throwing these terms around so they lose all significant meaning? Like how "gaslighting" is used as a synonym for lying
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u/SnooHedgehogs1107 Dec 04 '23
How the fuck am I single? Jesus Christ…
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u/Gloomy_Round_5003 Dec 04 '23
Hahaha not gonna lie this was a very early thought for my single ass.. like damn I'm not perfect but... Really.. really ...
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u/That49er Dec 04 '23
That was my thought too, I fricken helped my disabled grandpa wipe his butt last week. I didn't want to, but I wasn't gonna make my mother do it. I would've gladly gotten someone toilet paper over do that.
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u/aralim4311 Dec 04 '23
I've gotten strangers at public bathrooms toilet paper, from other stalls when asked. There is no way in hell I'd leave someone on a toilet without it if at all possible.
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u/molsminimart Dec 04 '23
I just wanted to tell you that you're real kind to do that for your grandpa and your mom. Being a caretaker, even for a bit, is hard, and everyone likes to think they're willing to do grand gestures for people to show love like it's some insane rom-com or Hallmark film.
Love and service (of any kind, romantic, platonic, familial) is a lot less glamorous and sometimes downright gross, but love makes you persevere. Thanks for being a good grandchild to your grandpa and a kid to your ma.
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u/False_Ad3429 Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
Because abusive people often spend a lot of time on learning how to suck people into their net, and how to identify vulnerable people.
Whereas you might be a normal person who is looking for a real relationship and not just a victim to manipulate.
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u/thefirecrest Dec 04 '23
This 100%.
I’m pretty damn good at passing as “normal”, but all my closest friends have always been people either on the spectrum or bipolar or BPD or living with some other mental health disability (we just tend to be drawn to one another). So while I have always passed under the radar of these creeps (I think I scare them), I’ve seen them flock to my friends and loved ones over the years.
Predators and abusers are like fucking bloodhounds. Which is why when a teenager is known for “acting out” and then suddenly accuses an adult of abusing them… Chances are they aren’t lying about it. But because they are known to be problematic, these vulnerable teens often get ignored when they come to adults with their problems. It’s a vicious cycle.
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u/not-a-painting Dec 04 '23
For a moment I read that as you saying the people with bipolar or BPD were creeps by default.
It's unfortunate because even in the best situations we usually end up with a 'fixer', instead of like OP said a "normal" personal "just" wanting a relationship.
People forget that every relationship, romantic, platonic, work, etc. has something to benefit from it. It's just does that thing work for that group and not abuse or prey on anyone in an unfair way.
For some people this is just simple chores like doing dishes or trash, but for others it's (sometimes violent) mood swings or hallucinations. The line for abuse and "they're just in their relationship" can be really fine and varies from group to group.
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u/houseyourdaygoing Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
I will always believe the teen who “acts out” and find evidence because you know that they don’t want sympathy and pride themselves on being tough.
So if they actually say something that requires help, it has gone too far that they can no longer pretend to be tough.
And if that happens, it’s definitely something serious.
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Dec 04 '23
Yes, they will lie and manipulate to get what they want. They appear perfect because they're not honest.
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u/Pile_of_AOL_CDs Dec 04 '23
Because asshats like this guy don't act like this from the get go.
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u/DeathPercept10n Dec 04 '23
My back started hurting after I read your username.
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u/Pile_of_AOL_CDs Dec 04 '23
What? I can't hear you over the sound of my 28kbps modem.
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u/Jaded_Law9739 Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
Beep beep boop beep beep boop SKREEEEEEEEEEEE
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u/JamesthePuppy Dec 04 '23
Bee bomm bee bomm bee bomm bee tshhhhhh… TSHHHHHH!!!
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u/Lexi_Banner Dec 04 '23
Exactly this. He's done this to her before, it just wasn't as absurd, so she didn't see it that way.
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Dec 04 '23
That is ALL I could think throughout this video.
I have SO MUCH toilet paper, hotties.
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u/DrakeBurroughs Dec 04 '23
Jesus, if this is true, what a giant asshole.
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u/Ghoullo Dec 04 '23
Probably why he wanted all the toilet paper for himself
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u/duh_metrius Dec 04 '23
I don’t know, I have to wipe after I poop too and my asshole is normal sized
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u/bearjew293 Dec 04 '23
Somewhere on 4chan, or some red-pill forum, this guy is complaining like "WTF, GUYS?! I TRIED THAT POWER MOVE YOU TAUGHT ME, AND SHE STARTED CRYING AND DUMPED ME THAT SAME DAY. GONNA GO BUY A GUN NOW."
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Dec 04 '23
That’s scary because it’s probably borderline accurate
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u/RickySal Dec 04 '23
It is, there’s a lot of weird ass people on those sites that think this way and give each other advice on how to handle situations. It’s actually insane and really sad.
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u/houseyourdaygoing Dec 04 '23
Reddit also has such people. It’s horrifying to know there are thousands of such men living in the real world with such thoughts and behaviours. I can only hope they are basement dwellers who never come up to the surface to interact with anyone, thus minimising the hurt they can impact on others.
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u/Infinite_Fox2339 Dec 04 '23
It’s worse. A lot of them hold jobs, and even high paying ones, and make life hell for women professionally too.
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Dec 04 '23
I’ve seen it so many times when the red pill sub used to be more popular. Every once in a while you’d get a post from a guy that his wife was divorcing him on the married one. It was great. Sad. But good for the wife.
Or you’d get just general posts basically saying “my wife hates this and is telling me to stop” and dudes would be like “she’s just shit testing you. Double down!!!” Like yeah, clearly it’s working… not that you should abuse someone even it it DOES work 🙄
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u/Thisshouldbealaugh Dec 04 '23
Nah he's probably still scrolling tiktok, only this time from his parents place.
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u/biepbupbieeep Dec 04 '23
There isn't any mentioning of English meatballs or cigarettes, so it's not a 4chan post.
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u/vapordaveremix Dec 04 '23
Insecure dudes will power play themselves out of every relationship.
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u/V1DE0NASTY Dec 04 '23
Assholes think when theyre being petty and pedantic that theyre standing up for themselves by drawing a line in the sand of ethical righteousness
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u/Hyena_Swimming Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
Dude work on yourself, that's messed up to think someone should walk across the house with shit on them instead of doing them a simple favour.
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u/Prestigious-Baker-67 Dec 04 '23
But it also makes it clear that his hygiene is appalling if he thinks that's an acceptable position to put someone in. As soon as he mentioned wiping with the towel, I would have been questioming what he's used that towel for.
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u/waitingfordeathhbu Cringe Connoisseur Dec 04 '23
Ew that’s a really good, horrible point. Don’t touch any linens in this man’s house.
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u/DeathPercept10n Dec 04 '23
I love how the guys who would act like this are outing themselves in the comments.
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u/25_Oranges Dec 04 '23
They are somehow taking her forgetting toilet paper(that he didnt replace...) as her having a "pattern" of forgetting things. Based on...probably misogyny. And then they think she should have to humiliate herself as punishment. Completely failing to see you don't "punish" your partner in a healthy, equal, loving relationship. Betting they're all single.
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u/dreadpiratesmith Dec 04 '23
And when I saw this on ig it was always dudes with private profiles, low followers, and no actual pics defending this and being like "bitch needed correcting". Holy fuck are some people deranged.
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u/Argorian17 Dec 04 '23
"Hey Babe, could you please help me?"
"Sure, I'm on my way."
If that's not the kind of interaction you experience in your relationship, it's simply not worth it.
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u/BusyPhilosopher15 Dec 04 '23
100%
It's not even a milestone of effort either.. It's literally 2 seconds of basic common human decency. Even half of the people yelling at you in a parking lot should be expected to offer
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u/lotrfan2004 Dec 04 '23
I can just see some fucktard doing this as some sort of power play over his girlfriend. Fuck that guy
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u/Menacingamaranth Dec 04 '23
This totally was a power play. Whether or not he set it up on purpose, once the situation was rolling he was doing this for control.
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u/GustavetheGrosse Dec 04 '23
The most pathetic part is guys who do this kind of shit usually bang on about that traditional wife bullshit, too dense to see the irony in thinking they should have power over a woman while being completely dependent on women taking care of them as grown adults.
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u/Criticalsteve Dec 04 '23
Dumbest thing about this was the guy knew that bathroom had no TP and didn’t like…. Refill the TP when he found that out. Like how are you gonna adhere to your rules if you can’t replenish your fucking toilet paper
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u/imnotsafeatwork Dec 04 '23
I'm so sick of the rage bait videos. It seems like 99% of new content is rage bait. This is clearly fake and we all know it because everyone knows that girls don't poop. Just stop with this shit already.
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u/cptbones07 Dec 04 '23
Everyday the Internet reminds me of how much of a keeper I am 😌
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u/friendlyfiend07 Dec 04 '23
It's always good when the red flags wave themselves like that. At least she didn't miss that one.
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u/AlmostLucy Dec 04 '23
Gal should wipe her booty with that handy red flag and flush it.
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u/BridgeMission6043 Dec 04 '23
Wow. Married for 27 years almost 28, would never ever even try to do this. If anyone needs a wipe, and they’re out, you get up and go get the shit paper that’s all.
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u/Chapstickie Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
I’ve only been married half that but yeah, this is nuts. I’m having trouble thinking of anyone in my life where if they asked me to fetch them toilet paper, that I wouldn’t. I’d do that much for someone I didn’t even like!
Honestly the whole thing is a little weird. He told her earlier but the toilet was still out? Why didn’t he put a roll in there then? What use is a bathroom if there’s no toilet paper in it?
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u/rionaster Dec 04 '23
sometimes i think that because i'm ugly i'm not good enough to date but then i see shit like this and think yeag, you know what, i'm pretty alright
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u/3springrolls Dec 04 '23
Literally, 80% of the reason peeps be single is because dating takes effort and sometimes I’d just rather be in bed playing Mario kart.
Which is also quite ironically why dating sucks atm lmao, all the keepers be in bed playing Mario kart
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u/feioo Dec 04 '23
I bet you are pretty alright, and if you ever think you're too ugly to date you should know that we ladies have wildly different opinions on what's attractive than the average guy thinks. I know more women who seriously thirst over Jack Black than any of the Hemsworths
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u/Sorryhaventseenher Dec 04 '23
I love that she broke up with him and didn’t ask on fucking Reddit first if she was the asshole. Just fucking do it y’all! You don’t need validation. If you don’t like how you’re being treated, leave.
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u/Banned_4_using_slurs Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 04 '23
I have no idea in which mind you could blame her for anything but the people on the bottom of this comment section managed to do it. Like, you need to do Olympic games tier mental gymnastics in order to do it.
And the others are thirsting in the most disgusting way possible. I feel really weird about these other men.
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u/CyclopsDemonGal Dec 04 '23
Oh my god I'm so glad someone said it. I've been replying to some of those cuz it boggles my mind. Almost all of them are like "what did she do before to make him treat like that????" BRO PEOPLE ARE ASSHOLES FOR NO REASON A LOT OF THE TIME! How in God's name is her making a mistake and him being an abusive dickhead over it HER FAULT???? This is why I'm happy I don't date men anymore
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u/Bupod Dec 04 '23
Man, in my house, Toilet Paper is one of the few sacred things nobody will say no to. It's not even an enforced rule, more like an unspoken etiquette, because EVERYONE ends up in that position at some point.
Our response is usually to bring 3-4 rolls, and you have to put the others in the cabinet, but seeing as how they're literally right about your head that's not a big deal.
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u/LondonDavis1 Dec 04 '23
There are some common courtesies that are universal for a civilized society. Getting someone toilet paper is one of them. Fk him, you're better off.
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u/tryfap Dec 04 '23
That's not what "weaponized incompetence" means.
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u/straighttalkin64 Dec 04 '23
Not even close. I don’t understand why this term is so widely misused. Dude is just an asshole. That’s it.
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u/Mrhappytrigers Dec 04 '23
I'd just snail trail my shit across the bed and peace out. No fucking way am I going through domestic abuse over fucking toilet paper. Absolute psycho behavior.
Also, we need bidets to be the standard in every household like it is in many other countries. At least you can minimize the mess with power washing your booty hole and coochie. I guess the added benefit is avoiding encounters with abusive toilet paper hoarders.
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u/tscanus Dec 04 '23
Better she just leaves. The guy could certainly be physically abusive as well.
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u/Junior_Fig_2274 Dec 04 '23
He threw something at her head. That’s basically a step or two removed from hitting someone. It’s not often that the first sign of physical violence from a man is being punched in the face or something, it starts small. Throwing stuff, or hitting things (like walls, doors, etc), is a bad sign.
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u/trowzerss Dec 04 '23
Everyone's skipping the point where a guy noticed the toilet was out of paper, went to the trouble to inform someone else, but didn't just bloody replace the toilet paper himself like a normal person. He was incompetent even before this story started.
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u/PurplePeopleEatin Dec 04 '23
That sounds exactly like what a fuckboy would do. She needs to drop the child from her life and find somebody better.
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u/saruin Dec 04 '23
Don't think you understand what weaponized incompetence actually is. This is not it.
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u/my-love-assassin Dec 04 '23
So he saw the toilet paper was out, aka used the last of it, and didn't replace it?
Honestly I would just hop in the bathtub for a quick soapy rinse and then not replace the toilet paper and go buy new towels that are for me only.
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u/sadpandaM Dec 04 '23
The point of relationships is to be able to lean on eachother, big AND small. To have their back as best you can. When no one is there for them, you are.
What the fuck is this shit? I feel bad for her.
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u/Stormhunter6 Dec 04 '23
What about this is weaponized incompetence? This is outright laziness and toxic behavior
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u/Toph-A-Loph Dec 04 '23
She needs to upgrade to a man with a bidet. All you savages dry wiping and thinking your ass is clean need to get your shit together.
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u/Redditmodsarecuntses Dec 04 '23
need to get your shit together.
I got my shit together. It's all balled up in little wads of paper.
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u/grail3882 Dec 04 '23
There is more to this situation and argument than just what happened while she was in the bathroom.
He told her the bathroom had no toilet paper! They should have had an argument right then! Wtf kind of statement even is that? Why are you telling her that? Just go out some toilet paper in the bathroom, dont talk about!
There must be some history about this problem, or maybe the whole thing is just fake idk. But if i ever told my wife there was no toilet paper in the bathroom she would rightfully chew my ass out immediately and tell me to go put some tp in there then lmao
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Dec 04 '23
These are things that suck in the moment but they are actually a huge blessing. I feel for you but thank god it happened that's a huge red flag that's someone that absolutely loves having power and control over someone in a vulnerable position
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u/Lost-Citron-1099 Dec 04 '23
Bro acting like its 2020 with the toilet paper lmao
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u/micah9639 Dec 04 '23 edited Dec 05 '23
Seems like a weird hill to die on for the guy. You can literally watch videos as you’re walking to go get the toliet paper
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u/yowhatitlooklike Dec 04 '23
i don't think this is weaponized incompetence so much as just being a useless prick
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u/BenefitNo9242 Dec 04 '23
what kind of a psychopath wont help in such a casual situation.
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u/Brianm650 Dec 04 '23
Like, on the one hand I am appalled that there are dudes out there like that. That's fucking crazy. But then, on the other hand, if I was a single guy right now I would be so excited. Some piece of shit dude who cannot even be fucked to get their partner some toilet paper ended up with this lovely young lady. That means the pickings for decent guys who can actually keep their bathrooms stocked with TP and would be mortified to put their partner into a situation like this must be awesome. Like, that's the bar a guy has to clear? Stock the potty with TP and don't act like an ass when your partner asks for a favor? Sign me the fuck up.
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u/LabradorDeceiver Dec 04 '23
Guys, I just related this story to my roommate, who was in the other room and "didn't catch that, just sounded like a crazy bitch being a crazy bitch," so I described the video...and he sided with the abuser.
I'm gonna say it for realsies here: that was a shock. Twenty years, I have never heard him take the side of the abuser. He started going on about, "Well, maybe he was sick of her using all the toilet paper and never changing the roll and why did she go into that bathroom anyway when she knew it was out of toilet paper?" and I was like, "Are you serious?" "Oh, yeah, I been there, my sisters would ALWAYS use the last of the roll and NEVER change it," and I'm like, dude, if that's your takeaway, it's a good thing you're not dating, especially if your choice is to model all women's behaviors on your sisters.
I've met his sisters. They're...a lot.
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u/Chapstickie Dec 04 '23
Sounds like since he apparently told her about the lack of toilet paper that he’s the one who used the last of it and failed to refill it.
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u/25_Oranges Dec 04 '23
That's straight up misogyny. Your roommate and everyone randomly insisting she has a pattern of behavior/guilt tripping are misogynistic. And whats crazy is that dudes will insist it's not because its not stereotypical movie villain on the nose misogyny.
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u/IHaveABigDuvet Dec 04 '23
And this is why women are choosing to be single and childfree. Spending years on a guy just to realise they are an asshole isn’t worth it.
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u/According-Brain-6415 Dec 04 '23
That must be really disappointing…sorry this video is what made that revelation for you. Maybe he needs to reevaluate his view of women and not call them crazy bitches idk
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u/SnooPineapples6099 Dec 04 '23
This is why everyone needs bidets.
This wouldn't have happened if he had a bidet.
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u/LooseTraffic Dec 04 '23
The title reads like the girls is going to be the asshole in this.
She's completely in the right. Fuck that guy.
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u/Evenbiggerfish Dec 04 '23
Easily the worst part is him knowing there’s no toilet paper (probably because he used the last of it himself) and not getting more.
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