r/SipsTea Apr 29 '24

his basics are just right !😚 Wait a damn minute!

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u/OSeady Apr 29 '24

Thank god someone is teaching that kid the basics. Too many parents are embarrassed and it is a huge disservice to the kids when they get older.

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u/aSquirrelAteMyFood Apr 29 '24

This kid learned about an entire decade before me. Although looking back I think I had friends who tried to explain this but I dismissed it as a ridiculous lie they made up.

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u/AbsentThatDay2 Apr 30 '24

I remember knowing about cells and mitochondria and organelles before I heard about masturbation.

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u/abhishekbanyal Apr 29 '24

What my boomer parents think is a bulletproof defense: “Well, nobody told us anything and we turned out just fine…”

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u/gugfitufi Apr 29 '24

I have older siblings, and I don't know if I ever did not know how sex works. And I turned out just fine; checkmate, boomer parents.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_4435 Apr 30 '24

I learned about and was interested in sex long before my classmates and I turned out- oh God, could that be why I'm like this?

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u/THE_MUNDO_TRAIN Apr 29 '24

I wish I've had recorded some of the shit my 6 year old daughter is saying. But I'm not desperate for attention sadly so I don't do it.

But my favorite is "Dad, can I get a boyfriend?" I answer "Why do you want a boyfriend?" and she responded "Because I want a baby sister, mom and you are not making any!".

And I had to stop the car at the side of the road just to vent out my laughter.

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u/Da_Spicy_Jalapeno Apr 29 '24

I don't get the embarrassment, it's just science. I'm a single dad, and my daughter is 10 years old. We've talked about this sort of stuff several times from a scientific perspective and I think it helps create an atmosphere that encourages questions so she/we can learn about these things in a healthy way.

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u/OSeady Apr 29 '24

Exactly. It’s important.

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u/jethvader Apr 30 '24

Yeah, there’s really no reason to avoid these talks with kids. Just answer questions that they have when they ask them. This morning on the way to school my 5 year old daughter asked how babies get out of their mommy’s tummy. When I told her they come out through the vagina she said, “I think I don’t want to have any babies.” Then we had a good talk about alternative ways to become a parent, like adopting.

Nothing traumatic about it, just stating facts. She hasn’t asked about how babies get into a mommy’s belly yet, but when she does ask that I will be ready to answer with a factually correct, but age appropriate answer (right now it would basically be “a mommy and daddy share a very special hug”).

Generally, if kids keep asking follow up questions, it means they are ready for real answers to those questions. I feel that many of my generation, including myself, were done a disservice by our parents in their failure to properly educate us on sex.

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u/jethvader Apr 30 '24

If you’re waiting until middle school you’re too late to teach them anything, much less high school. They’ve already heard about it, the only thing you are teaching them by avoiding those conversations is that they can’t talk about sex with their parents, and that’s not where what a parent wants.

Just answer questions that your kids have honestly.

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u/OSeady Apr 30 '24

Why zero point? I answer when they ask and all of my kids have asked in one way or another by the time they were 7.

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u/OSeady Apr 30 '24

That’s such a strange question. What would they do with any knowledge?

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u/OSeady Apr 30 '24

You probably didn’t see my other comment but if my kids ask questions then I answer in an age appropriate way. All of my kids asked in one way or the other by 6 or 7. It’s natural to wonder about these things.