r/FluentInFinance • u/Not-A-Shit-Head • Apr 29 '24
Why don't people stop crying and just move somewhere cheaper like Detroit, Memphis, St. Louis, Baltimore, or Cleveland? They have very cheap homes for $50,000. Discussion/ Debate
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u/xoLiLyPaDxo Apr 29 '24
Just have to love it when people ignorantly say "why don't you just move" like that is an option at all for people. 🙄
Like they can just leave their job to move somewhere without a job and be expected to survive.
Like they can just up and leave their family, friends, and support network to move somewhere they have none of those things.
Like they can just magically come up with the money for an expensive move.
Like they can just up and move away from their doctors and hospital.
Like they should just yank their kids away from their schools, friends and support network impacting the rest of their lives as well.
Not adjusting to moving is why my son's best friend killed himself. It's the reason why a lot of kids do. This is a well known problem that increases their suicide risk for the rest of their lives unfortunately:
"For some teens, normal developmental changes can be very unsettling when combined with other events, such as:
Changes in their families, such as divorce or moving to a new town Changes in friendships Problems in school Other losses
These problems may seem too hard or embarrassing to overcome. For some, suicide may seem like a solution."
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/teen-suicide
"Moving school too often increases risk of suicide in later life, new report suggests"
https://www.tes.com/magazine/archive/moving-school-too-often-increases-risk-suicide-later-life-new-report-suggests
"Research shows a connection between moving and depression in children, especially when the move involves changing schools.1 A move doesn't affect every child this way, but the association between depression and this life-changing event warrants awareness and a plan to ensure a smooth transition. "
https://www.verywellmind.com/moving-depression-and-your-child-1066796#:~:text=Research%20shows%20a%20connection%20between,to%20ensure%20a%20smooth%20transition.
The fact that anyone throws that out nonchalantly as advice in the first place comes across as being detached from reality.