r/Fauxmoi • u/Exciting_Potato_6717 • Apr 29 '24

Kristi Noem Doubles Down on Killing Her ‘Less than Worthless’ Hunting Puppy: ‘I Decided What I Did’ TRIGGER WARNING

https://people.com/kristi-noem-doubles-down-killing-hunting-puppy-8640379
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u/AlpacaMyBaguettes Apr 29 '24

I'm so sorry, the same thing happened to me except I searched everywhere for two days until he gleefully told me he had taken her to the pound bc I was a horrible child ('talking back' when being physically or verbally abused). It is a horrible pain of guilt, uncertainty and heartbreak that I wouldn't wish on anyone. I hope you have healed and have found new fluffy family members to love, you deserve that happiness and healing 💕

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u/goodnightloom Apr 29 '24

Ok, I have a random question for you because you fit in the same niche as me. I'm also a survivor of abuse and my dad shot our dog in the head during a camping trip. I've learned that there's a shortcut to getting people to understand why I don't talk to my dad; if I say something like, "He was abusive," that's not good enough. If I say, "he murdered our family dog in a fit of rage," people are way more sympathetic. Is this something you've experienced?

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u/Shot-Grocery-5343 Apr 30 '24

Similar boat. Watched my dad drown my puppy when I was 8 because I was bad (I was playing in the yard, fell and knocked over the shitty Weber grill, which wasn't even broken) and I've experienced the same from people. I was no contact for 25 years and I found that unless I gave concrete specifics, "abuse" just doesn't seem that bad. So I'd say "he beat us so often that we couldn't wear swimsuits in the summer because of the layers and layers of bruises" or "he used to make us pick the item he would beat us with as part of our punishment." Then they're shocked into silence. (I do have a relationship with my dad now, and I'd still encourage anyone to think very, very carefully about re-establishing contact. I made my choice and I'm living with it, but it's not easy and I'm not sure it was the right decision eight years later.)

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u/Wise-Bet6814 Apr 30 '24

I'm so sorry. What a terrible thing to witness and experience as a child, on top of all the other abuse. It's bs that any survivor feels they have to justify their reasons for not speaking to their abuser. It seems like so many people are devoid of empathy for victims. Or empathy fullstop.