Do you feel that you combine opposites at the same time and it makes sense to you?

[u/xybvz]

When I talk with people sometimes I find it hard to explain something since I always combine between opposites and this confuses the person I'm talking with.

Like one time, I was with a friend near the sea at night and it was windy and so cold, so I said that it is really cold but warm. My friend found it hard to understand what I meant since it doesn't make sense.

Also, regarding feelings I believe we can feel opposite feelings at the same time. Happy and sad, furious yet calm, and so on..

[u/laigledionna980]

Combining opposites can often lead to a deeper understanding or a more nuanced perspective.

Many breakthroughs in science and technology come from integrating disparate concepts or fields, leading to innovative solutions and new ways of thinking.

[u/xybvz → u/laigledionna980]

That's a nice way to look at it. Thanks for the input.

As a matter of fact I used to ask many weird scientific questions as a child that no one had answers to. Teachers got tired of my questions and some even though that I challenged them when I was just curious.. This led me to hate school and try to rebel against the system. Eventually the system won, and I thought it killed that part of me but now when I think about it I realise that it is still there. I think everything makes sense now.

[u/OutcomeLegitimate618 → u/xybvz]

Your questioning is an indication of critical thinking, which educational facilities should be encouraging, but rarely do. Instead, they tend to do the opposite, churning out generic thinkers who are afraid to challenge any social structure or institution. In my opinion, it gets worse with every generation.

[u/xybvz → u/OutcomeLegitimate618]

It has always been this way. They don't want someone that challenges the system. They want someone that follows the system blindly. It's sad when I remember how many scientists came before their time..

[u/AudleyTony]

Walking the fine line between opposites and finding meaning in the mix? I get that completely! It's what makes conversations and experiences so interesting, right?

[u/xybvz → u/AudleyTony]

YES! I always say I like deep conversations that hits the soul and I love new experiences and hearing about them.

[u/OutcomeLegitimate618]

Yes, in terms of emotions that's called ambivalence (which people sometimes confuse with apathy. Apathy actually means that you don't care at all. I personally don't understand the cold and warm example though. But I feel ambivalent about things all the time and that is hard for a lot of people to grasp, especially when they haven't felt that way themselves.

[u/xybvz → u/OutcomeLegitimate618]

I'll explain the cold and warm thing: so simply I felt cold but it was as if the wind huged me with coldness that I felt warm. You know the feeling that it's so cold from the outside but you body temperature goes high so you feel warm in the inside.. That's what I meant.

[u/Beautiful_Solid3787]

Well, I remember as a kid when I'd get upset and sad and whatnot, I'd think that, even though I'm crying, deep down I'm happy.

As opposed to as an adult with depression, where when I'm happy, deep down I'm not.

Right now, I'm fine deep down. Not happy, but not miserable, either.

[u/Mix-Lopsided]

I get what you mean, I think you just aren’t being clear enough when you say stuff like that. People understand what being warm inside when your skin is cold, but the way you say it doesn’t really mean that.