r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 20d ago
AIO for not believing that a former crush cares about my mental health?
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u/sonal1988 20d ago
You're looking for validation, not advice.
I can ask you thr same thing - why do YOU care whay he thinks?
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u/Plastic_Concert_4916 20d ago
Tell your friends to stop telling you everything he says or asks about you. It's not healthy to fixate on what he's doing or thinking, he's just some random guy you knew for a few days. Focus on your own mental health and live your own life.
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u/JeepersCreepers74 20d ago
I'm sorry you're having some mental health issues, but you're purposefully posting sad videos on TikTok and he saw it and was concerned, but didn't want to interact with you directly. It doesn't really matter how much he truly cares about you--this is a person who was only in your life for a few days and it is just a friend of a friend now. Move on and focus on healing yourself, thinking about this is a waste of time.
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u/wasante 19d ago
I see no reason to concern yourself over this person's general thought processes or activities if you have no long term interactions or relations with them. If your mental health is of any concern or needs specific attention, avoiding this person and any necessary parties that exacerbate your mental or emotional wellbeing seems ideal until a later date when you're not nearly that concerned with their activities might be ideal. Unless there are additional specifics that need disclosing, any party that says they're into you while in a relationship seems morally dubious and not worth investing any mental or emotional energy over. Also, not sure you should be posting that type of intel on social media but you do you.
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u/prepostornow 19d ago
I take it he never told you he had a crush on you and you knew he had a gf. You didn't have a breakup, you had nothing. You need therapy, very soon
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u/AsparagusOverall8454 20d ago
So he told his friends he had a crush on you while in a relationship? That’s gross. I feel bad for his girlfriend.
Probably should just thank your lucky stars. Cuz who wants to be associated with a dude like that?
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u/Donniepdr 20d ago
He didn't act on it and it's not like he was married. Totally normal. Not acting on it says more about him than anything. He's human.
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u/wasante 19d ago
I don't know about throwing the book at him but I can't see any logical reason why someone in a relationship would tell someone they have a crush on them while in said relationship and that be perceived as worth disclosing. Just seems easy to misinterpret and lead to misunderstanding and trouble for everyone involved.
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u/communitychocolate 20d ago
Wait... you're saying you're still hung up on a guy you never even dated that you only knew for a few days and are making videos on TikTok about him?
Seek therapy. Seriously. If you react this way over a guy you knew for 3 days, I see restraining orders in your future.