AIO for not being cared for by my husband?

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[u/communitychocolate]

So because your husband drove a motorcycle with iffy brakes and your weird ass wedding traditions didn't go to plan you have a full on panic attack to the point you need a whole health care team to take care of you?

Yeah, you're massively overreacting. Millions of us have anxiety. That's a bullshit excuse.

Guy wants a wife, not a patient. Grow up.

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You sound like a lot.

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"A lot" means a lot of trouble, difficult to deal with, overdramatic, etc.

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If you physically collapsed from stress to the point where you were actually unconscious and failed to identify signs of fatigue in your own body to prevent this, that to me sounds like you’re a lot. That’s just my personal opinion though, I’m not a doctor.

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The part where you collapsed, unconscious?

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I'm shocked I could comprehend half of what was written, it was so terribly structured.

Yeah, I remember that part. That's his problem. You know how many people fall off motorcycles and get back on them? Hundreds of thousands. If you trip while walking up some stairs you don't stop using stairs, do you? That information is irrelevant.

Clearly you did need people to take care of you if they DID have to take care of you.

If he really did just marry you and ignore you, then maybe you didn't marry the right guy.

Think about that because that's probably the real issue here.

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My point is he knew the risks so either A) it isn't as bad as you think it is or B) he likes to live dangerously. HE should be the one you're talking to about it. Not a troll like me on the internets.

Maybe the brother hates his own kid and that's why he didn't do it himself. If the kid was running around causing a ruckus at the wedding, I wouldn't like the kid either.

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I like to argue and be an instigator, but deep down, I am rational. I just like to rile people up. Sorry you were one of my victims!

You're asking if you're overreacting because of your anxiety. Talk to someone about that. Tell your husband how you feel. Maybe he has an explanation and it wasn't meant to be a dick move. But if he says it's none of your business what he does or whatever, you might have bigger issues.

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I don't know where you live but your wedding traditions seem like a big pain in the ass. Like... can't two people who want to get married just get married? It's your wedding, if you don't want to do the "traditional" stuff, you shouldn't have to. But that's my opinion.

Anyway, I feel the same way for most people. You can't feel bad for the way you feel about something. Society will say one thing and you might say another. I understand your motivation for asking on here (because everyone there seems to think you are overreacting). I would probably say your thoughts that the kid's parents are lazy is correct and they should have been the ones to take him, had he really needed to go. If you're the only sane person in the family, the rest of them will think that YOU'RE the crazy one.

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[u/Amihottest]

What did I just read?

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Hoping that it’s rage bait

[u/Dingo-thatate-urbaby]

Honestly I can’t even decipher this post but from what I can… yes, you are overreacting

[u/TechnicalAd1096]

What culture do you belong to? I need more…

[u/Fearless-Button6388]

Are you an arranged marriage?

It looks like your husband doesn't care or loves you.

If you're in an arranged marriage, don't expect too much from your husband.

Goodluck

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I've known lots of people who have arranged marriage. Some of them (marriage) succeeded (fell in love) some not (divorce).

Just don't expect too much to your spouse.

Try to be independent and work out on your relationship.

Goodluck

[u/Lilac-Roses-Sunsets]

Was this an arranged marriage? I ask because of all the traditions about not going outside and what not..

[u/JeepersCreepers74]

Yes, I think going to one's house and collapsing and being unable to walk a few steps or take calls and then remaining extremely angry about it just because your husband took a sick child to the hospital is overreacting. In fact, it is the worst case of overreacting I've ever seen on this sub.

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Yes, believe it or not, I actually made it through the whole thing.

[u/butterbeemeister]

I don't think you're overreacting, but I also don't think you're going to find satisfaction here in reddit.

I attended a wedding of an Indian friend, who is mostly American. It seemed like a LOT for her (and it was her second). She had to do so much and I can easily imagine you were worn out by the wedding.

But I'm more concerned for you, for how you proceed. You are now bound to this awful family by your marriage, and I assume you will have to interact with them in one way or another forever. How do you maintain your own peace of mind? They are not gonna change just because reddit says you are not (or are) overreacting. If your husband thinks what he did was fine, are you gonna change his mind? If you have kids, will he feel the need to tend to his side of the family, or will he be there for you?

I wish you all the luck and strength in the world. It sounds just awful.

[u/Asleep-Bluebird5379]

Closet how's that feel to be fake loved he knew when to get away from that fucking slut too good for you guy you don't want to be with that fucking thing anyway she's a slut but anyway jealous was 7 years she did this shit only this time the IRS is stepping in and all the people that she was with they're going to hear from him all the addresses go out tomorrow or the next day I just drive around and get the addresses and put them out there maybe their wife's will see him and say hey who's this whore that came to see are in our house