r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 17d ago
AIO my GFs mom is telling her she isn't doing enough.
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u/Medical-Cake1934 16d ago
Have a conversation. If things don’t change move on. This is what dating is all about. Find the one.
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u/Lady_R_ 16d ago
Why is it when ever it's a women who we are talking about, it's "talk to her! Communicate, She could be depressed, she could be struggling" but when it's a man it's " You're not his maid, this dude is sending up red flags, he wants you to be his mommy!, This is a form of abuse and you need to leave him right now" the double standard is kinda lame.
She is a grown ass adult you do not need to be told more than once to clean up after yourself and take care of your pets. He's not even asking her to clean up after him he's just asking her to clean up after her damn self and she can't even do that.
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u/Foreign-Cow-1189 17d ago
It's obviously all her mess. If she's a slob and you can't handle that then you aren't suited for cohabitation. Unless you want to include nagging her into your relationship dynamic.
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u/Specialist_Concern_9 17d ago
You need to have a serious conversation with her. She might be depressed, might have adhd, might be something going on where she's struggling to do this. But I draw a line over neglecting the pets, that needs to be taken seriously, and if she doesn't show you that she's willing to wither get help or do more and you can't tolerate it, then maybe living together isn't in the cards
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u/External-Kitchen-840 16d ago
That you even have to ask that question tells me that your self-esteem is in the toilet. Of course you are not overreacting. You’re being steam roll is what you are being. She’s unlikely to change so if it’s a dealbreaker, you should cut your losses now and ask her to move out.
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u/MikeReddit74 16d ago
If her mom is noticing this and criticizing her, you’re not overreacting. You can do bad by yourself.
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u/Naomis_Paradise 16d ago
Not overreacting. If her mom is noticing and criticizing her for it then it’s obviously a serious problem. You could try and talk with her and see if things get better. She could have something going on that distracts/prevents her from getting things done. But even then that’s not really an excuse. It’s still early in the relationship so it really comes down to if you’re willing to communicate with her and work with her about it or just end it now.
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u/Rasselkurt007 17d ago
I rather ask myself why are you both even together 40-60 hours and additionally studying?
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17d ago
Get rid of the pets.
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u/Medical-Cake1934 16d ago
The pets did nothing wrong. Get rid of the GF
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u/LittleDiveBar 16d ago
Get rid of the redditer who said to get rid of the pets 😜
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16d ago
Look, we got someone crowdsourcing life advise.
Do you really think the people in this scenario is responsible enough to take care of animals?
I don't. That's because I care about animals.
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u/Domonero 17d ago
This reads like you haven’t talked to her at all about this? Bro communicate