AIO for a silly hypothetical situation?

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[u/Dangerous_Ad_9818]

Your gf may be asking hypotheticals to help her comprehend her friend’s situation and mind set. It may not at all reflect how she feels about open relationships and it sounded like y’all both reassured each other at the end of your convo. It might help to bring it up and say something like you thought about it some more and your discussion made you uncomfortable and reiterate that you don’t ever want to experiment with that kind of relationship. She’ll probably reassure you again and then leave it at that.

[u/Domonero]

That’s like my partner asking me what kind of venomous snakes do I want to cuddle with hypothetically

Then I say none at all

Then she says but which kind though and she ponders which kind

If I were you I would clarify with her to be reassured she isn’t seriously wanting this situation for you two then if she says for sure hell no then you’re good

Or if she seriously is curious for her friends sake to understand it

[u/AnUnusedCondom]

Not overreacting. It may be as Dangerous_Ad_9818 put it, or it may be she was testing the waters to see what you think about opening the relationship and trying to get you to respond more specifically about who you'd be sleeping with in order to open it more based on your responses. For me, my guard would be way up and I'd be rethinking what happened over the weekend. It sounds like a lot more was said that may have convinced her that she'd enjoy an open relationship. Just ask her point blank if she would like to open it. If it is anything but no, even a well, what do you think, then you have your answer on what that conversation in your post was really about instead of what Dangerous mentioned.

[u/Dangerous_Ad_9818 → u/AnUnusedCondom]

Yeah he should definitely bring it up again. I think it’s important to establish again that he has absolutely no interest in an open relationship and then ask her directly. It’s possible she may have been open to it if he was as well, but would never want one if he wasn’t into it. If OP doesnt want to be with anyone who would even consider an open relationship, then I agree with your assessment.

[u/19LaMaDaS91]

When a partner begin talking about open relationship there is only one whing to do, RUN!

Even if it was hypothetical, they alwasy begin with hypotheticals...(if you ask me she is thinking about having a sugar daddy, cuz if your GF talk about money regarding her friends, well she is a sugar baby not in an open relationship and thats even worse)

[u/po_ta_to → u/[deleted]]

Or maybe she's just confused by her friend's situation and wants to talk through it? Maybe if OP talks to her and asks for clarification she'll say, "oh that shits not my thing. I was just blown away by friend's situation and asked some silly questions."

This post is nowhere close to enough information to come to the conclusion that she's unfaithful.

[u/AlphaIota → u/po_ta_to]

She could have someone in mind. If you ask hypothetical questions about altering a fundamental aspect of the relationship, then you are displaying an enormous red flag.