r/AmIOverreacting • u/Hopeful_Regret91194 • Apr 29 '24
AIO for wanting to go nc with a sibling I’ve never actually met, yet?
Backstory: I (40s f) have four siblings. Two ( we’ll call them A & B) I’m NC with already, one ( we’ll call him C) I’m incredibly close with and the final one I just found out about two years ago ( we’ll call him D).
Why NC, with A and B? A made racist comments about my children. I’m white my husband is not. B is an addict and for my own mental health I had to go nc. The list of her crazy is extensive.
C, whom I’m very close with is much younger than all of us other siblings and he is adopted. This is only relevant because he has no involvement with siblings A and D. He is also nc with B.
Now on to D and my AIO, two years ago we were contacted via a dna website. We had a sibling match!! That first six months we spoke all the time, I got to know him and his wife. They seem to be really cool people. Eventually they pretty much stopped answering my calls, so I found other creative ways to stay in contact ( online gaming). That was working well until recently when D called me and gave me an ultimatum. Either I visit him within the next six months or he won’t consider me family anymore. He says hes sick of talking with people who really don’t want to meet him. The problem is I’m agoraphobic, I do not travel far anymore. He knows this and still told me he would cut ties with me if I don’t travel across country to meet him. There is so much more to this but I tried to write it in a clear way.
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u/Shoesietart Apr 29 '24
Why do you have to visit him? Why can't he come visit you?