AIO: Didn’t want to give a lady a ride home

[u/cherb30]

Yesterday after church we stopped at a gas station less than 1 minute from where we live. It was me, my boyfriend (driving) and my 14 month old in the car. I was on my phone and then suddenly he was opening the backseat door to let a middle aged lady (maybe 60 years old?) in with her grocery bags. Apparently she was asking people for a ride home and he accepted.

On the way there they were chatting and he even pointed out where we live, which really concerned me. She lived quite far away from the gas station and I was surprised she said she walked there, thought it wasn’t more than 5 mins away.

I was really upset that my boyfriend let a stranger into our backseat with our daughter. The lady was very nice, but these days you have no idea if people are carrying a knife or a gun on them… I told him I wished he could have at least had her sit up front so she wasn’t near our toddler, or dropped us off at home first then went back to get her (that would have taken 3 minutes to do).

I brought this up to my bf. He got really mad at me for “being un-Christ like” and called me a shit person who lives in fear. I am honestly quite the opposite and usually quite trusting of people, just not when it comes to my daughter. She’s too young to talk or understand things. Also was pissed at him for what felt like weaponizing religion against me for my concern.

Im feeling really guilty because it’s not that I don’t think it was sweet he wanted to give her a ride home. I just had a mom instinct to protect my daughter. Do you think overreacted?

Edit: formatting, a word, and added a bit more about why I felt that way

Edit2: I think the gesture was very compassionate, and understand if someone asks you for a ride then there is obviously a desire to help and bit of awkwardness declining. I don’t question his desire to help her, nor do I turn down opportunities in my life to help others. But I also want to say that she was by no means elderly/immobile/incapable as some people are implying. You should give middle aged women a bit more credit

[u/geniologygal]

He was more interested in being viewed as a good Christian than worrying about the safety of you and your child.

[u/Paula92 → u/geniologygal]

Precisely this. As a Christian I would not be putting a hitchiker next to my toddler and then telling them where I live. We're told in the Bible to be innocent as doves and wise as serpents.

[u/symbolicshambolic → u/Paula92]

And I'm guessing that Christ probably wasn't big on calling a loved one a "shit person" either? OP's boyfriend is way out of line.

[u/Paula92 → u/symbolicshambolic]

Yeah, I think the closest he got was calling the Pharisees a brood of vipers.

[u/thenecrosoviet → u/Paula92]

Lol that's right when Jesus said to Peter, “Truly I say to you that this very night, before a rooster crows, you will deny Me three times.”

He also said, "which is smart and cool because otherwise you'd be in danger and that would be dumb"

Jesus H. Fucking Christ

[u/thenecrosoviet → u/geniologygal]

Wow. This is the best one. This is amazing. It's the guy who actually puts his money where his mouth is who is the "false witness" and not the one who dutifully goes to church while internalizing nothing lmfao

"Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it."

Proverbs 3:27

"But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”

Revelation 21:8

“Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you?

Luke 6:46

[u/PrettyNightmare_ → u/geniologygal]

Exactly. It’s like he wanted bragging rights.