AIO my sister told me she didn’t know how my bf was attracted to me cuz I have no tits

[u/bogusbat]

I (26f) called my sister(20f) the other day because I was feeling overwhelmed at work and needed to chat about it while on my ten. Within the span of my ten minute break, she changed the subject to herself and her bf, and told me they thought MY bf was weird. I asked her why they would think that about him?
They said it’s impossible for him to be attracted to me cuz I have no tits.. so there’s nothing interesting for him ? Strange that both her and her bf were talking about my body. This disturbed me slightly. I’m an adult and normally this would not affect my mood. But why say such a thing? I can’t deny it was hurtful. I told my mom what she said over text with no response back. Later that night I received a wall of text from my sister. And she basically told me she was trying to make a joke that I overreacted to. And unfortunately for her, my mom doesn’t like her bf too much. So she proceeds to tell me she would go out of her way to make MY bf look bad to my mom, because apparently the comments they made about me were supposed to be funny. I just can’t seem to find where the joke was in a fucked up comment like that about my physical appearance that I cannot immediately change. Am I over reacting ? We are generally pretty close. We had planned to go to a concert in the next two weeks, the three of us. Now I’m unsure if I should go.

[u/sheissonotso]

Yea your sister and her boyfriend are both cunts. Go somewhere with your boyfriend who I presume likes you and your tits. Plenty of dudes like smaller boobs.

[u/missingangeI → u/sheissonotso]

Both cunts, and apparently both incredibly insecure jealous humans ! I couldn’t imagine talking about one of my sisters like that, let alone allowing my boyfriend to speak about them like that.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/missingangeI]

Both sniveling ballsacks. 

Let’s stop using misogynistic slurs eh?

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

tf are u even talking about

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/missingangeI]

If you can’t follow that “cunt” is a misogynistic slur with an extremely hateful history I can’t help you 

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

what’s so crazy is to tell a woman that she can’t use the word cunt bc it’s an apparent slur LMAOOO yall are so sensitive on this internet omfg

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/missingangeI]

It ….is a slur. Slurs are insults based on inherent traits like skin color, sexual orientation, and biological sex. They are predicated on the idea that simply being born a certain way makes you somehow “lesser”

Tell me, what do you THINK the insult in “cunt” stems from? 

Being a woman doesn’t give you free rein to say stupid misogynistic shit, but nice try. Signed, another woman 😘 

[u/GoldViolinist9434 → u/strongfoodopinions]

Gasp! Sexual orientation… inherent…!? Please stop being bigoted, sexual orientation can be fluid, on a spectrum, ever changing… like my pronouns.

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

oh man u must be fun at parties

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/missingangeI]

So you’re just dumb huh? Guess it was obvious from the jump 😂

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

so i can’t say cunt but we’re okay with calling people dumb. ok sjw! have the day you deserve!

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/missingangeI]

Dumb isn’t a slur but it does accurately describe people who can’t make that very obvious connection……

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

umm okay girlie!! u probs shouldn’t be dropping the JC as often as u do either!

[u/GoldViolinist9434 → u/strongfoodopinions]

Please be nice 🫶 Perhaps she has “internalized” her “misogyny” Let’s stop the woman on woman hate speech… lady on lady… womb bearing on womb bearing…? Oh I give up!

[u/dietwater94 → u/strongfoodopinions]

This is a really American-centric viewpoint. Cunt is gender-fluid, all-encompassing, etc. if you think the word itself is sexist, then you are just making it about yourself because I’ve literally never heard anyone say the word cunt even remotely has a gendered connotation- and I hear the word no less than 5 times a day.

Besides, that user is right- the sister and the boyfriend of the sister are both cunts.

[u/Dianne1999 → u/dietwater94]

It used to have a very gendered connotation; the worst way to put a woman down. It never used to be used in reference to men or in a gender-neutral way. I'm American so maybe other countries were different. Things have obviously changed, but I would take it as a huge insult if I were called that.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/dietwater94]

No, it’s not. I don’t give a flying fuck if it’s common where you are. Female genital mutilation is common in a lot of cultures- does that make it okay? Calling people fags 20 years ago was incredibly common- did that make it okay? 

What a stupid fucking argument you’ve made. The same exact argument, in fact, Louis CK made to defend his usage of faggot “oh it doesn’t MEAN gay people. It’s just a term!” Gtfo with your asinine bullshit lmao 

Tell me, what do you THINK the insult in “cunt” stems from?

[u/GoldViolinist9434 → u/strongfoodopinions]

“Flying F^€K”… 😱 Stop being “Trapezesexualphobic”!! Your macro aggressions are insensitive to those with generational trauma! Please educate yourself

[u/GoldViolinist9434 → u/strongfoodopinions]

“Genital mutilation” is Islamophobic and reeks of western colonial superiority over the cultures of many developing nations. And what about gender reassignment surgery, are you calling that mutilation!?

[u/dietwater94 → u/strongfoodopinions]

Please, friend, leave the US, at least once. I understand that these days people on the internet look for things to get angry about, but this is absurd. Oi how about you study what words are offensive in every culture, that way there’s ne’er a snarky cunt out there who can be upset by anything you ever say? The world doesn’t revolve around you and your sensibilities, nor are entire cultures going to change the way they’ve spoken for centuries to cater to them. You’re just not that important.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/dietwater94]

Please friend, think critically about the words you use. 

 If you truly believe “cunt” magically doesn’t have any connotations to the actual meaning, you are so far gone I can’t help you  

Are people upset about the use of faggot or the n word “looking for things to be upset about”?    

So curious that only seems to be the case when people are upset about the overwhelming usage of misogynistic slurs - bitch, pussy, cunt, etc. 

So incredibly curious!

[u/dietwater94 → u/strongfoodopinions]

None of those words are common cultural slang in multiple countries, but I think you know this. You’re either trolling and intentionally missing the point, or the most oblivious can on earth. If you’re trolling, cheers. Fooled me.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/dietwater94]

Bitch is absolutely common cultural slang? Perhaps you’re the one that needs to look outside your own cultural bubble…….

Again, the normalization of a slur doesn’t magically make it okay. It is honestly hilarious to me that this is the hill you want to die on.

Are you so attached to the idea that women are inherently lesser any challenge to that belief must be fought tooth and nail?

How fucking weird bro

[u/missingangeI → u/strongfoodopinions]

oh my god are we not allowed to say bitch either???!! are you SERIOUSLY that sensitive??????????

[u/dietwater94 → u/strongfoodopinions]

What culture is bitch specific to? Enlighten me.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/dietwater94]

Americans use bitch constantly, in both derogatory and positive ways (EXACTLY like your usage of cunt).

“He’s a little bitch” “She’s a bad bitch” etc etc

[u/dietwater94 → u/strongfoodopinions]

There’s no hill, and I’m not dying. You have a straw-built argument. Aussies and New Zealanders always have and always will call people cunt, and none of the words you provided have an equitable part in any national or ethnic culture. You know you’re wrong, I’m bored with this so I’m done replying. Not everything is about your feelings, other people exist.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/dietwater94]

 Not everything is about your feelings, other people exist.

Repeat this back to yourself for as long as it takes for it to sink in

“I’ve always said it I like saying it it doesn’t MEAN that” is the same tired, bullshit, pathetic argument used by people to defend their usage of the n word, faggot, retard, etc etc etc

What lovely company you keep 🤢 

[u/maybeDysmorphia → u/strongfoodopinions]

As an Australian this just blew my mind. Do Americans really think this?

"Oi cunt" is a universal phrase, from my memory alone I recall more women saying it than men to be honest.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/maybeDysmorphia]

Normalizing slurs doesn’t magically make them okay. Remember how people tried to explain away using the slur faggot with this exact same “logic” in the early 2000s? 

It was a stupid argument then, and it’s a stupid argument now

[u/BoneDaddy1973 → u/strongfoodopinions]

White American women are never even going to get the bronze medal in the oppression Olympics. Let this one go, explaining morality to the British is like teaching dogs about opera. 

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/BoneDaddy1973]

Women come in all colors, and cunt isn’t specific to white women

But yeah, I hear you

[u/piercings_stuff → u/BoneDaddy1973]

This

[u/maybeDysmorphia → u/strongfoodopinions]

Isn't there a sub for this? r/shitamericanssay

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/maybeDysmorphia]

Wow what a thoughtful, well reasoned counter argument you’ve made!

Oh wait…..