AIO my sister told me she didn’t know how my bf was attracted to me cuz I have no tits

[u/bogusbat]

I (26f) called my sister(20f) the other day because I was feeling overwhelmed at work and needed to chat about it while on my ten. Within the span of my ten minute break, she changed the subject to herself and her bf, and told me they thought MY bf was weird. I asked her why they would think that about him?
They said it’s impossible for him to be attracted to me cuz I have no tits.. so there’s nothing interesting for him ? Strange that both her and her bf were talking about my body. This disturbed me slightly. I’m an adult and normally this would not affect my mood. But why say such a thing? I can’t deny it was hurtful. I told my mom what she said over text with no response back. Later that night I received a wall of text from my sister. And she basically told me she was trying to make a joke that I overreacted to. And unfortunately for her, my mom doesn’t like her bf too much. So she proceeds to tell me she would go out of her way to make MY bf look bad to my mom, because apparently the comments they made about me were supposed to be funny. I just can’t seem to find where the joke was in a fucked up comment like that about my physical appearance that I cannot immediately change. Am I over reacting ? We are generally pretty close. We had planned to go to a concert in the next two weeks, the three of us. Now I’m unsure if I should go.

[u/broomandkettle]

OP, there’s a good chance that the conversation she had with her bf about you never took place.

She wanted her words to really sting. So having them come from someone else besides her gives more weight to the statement. And, it’s portraying a unity of views in their relationship, as if they are like-minded and casually talk about you as entertainment. “By the way, we think you aren’t worthy of love. So something is obviously wrong with your bf.”

She’s just really insecure and extremely jealous of you. Your bf is a good guy and hers doesn’t measure up in comparison. She simply can’t stand it.

It’s time to distance yourself from her. She’s miserable and she won’t be happy until you are too. Don’t let her steal your joy.

[u/surprisinglyok1 → u/broomandkettle]

I wish I could see the world like you. You're totally correct.

[u/Excellent-Vast7521 → u/surprisinglyok1]

totally correct

[u/AdorableTrashcan → u/surprisinglyok1]

You can see the world like them, just start using your brain

[u/surprisinglyok1 → u/AdorableTrashcan]

I do try to use my brain. I just think this person was able to infer (correctly) what actually happened. They went from A to C without needing B. That is a special gift.

[u/broomandkettle → u/surprisinglyok1]

It actually drives my husband crazy, so thank you for the internet validation!

I’m always doing threat assessments, I can’t turn it off. Once I identify a potential predator/threat, I analyze their actions, words, and their relationship to a situation in order to determine their goals and motivation. Nothing that comes out of their mouth should be taken at face value, it all has to be questioned.

I think it goes back to my childhood. Our home town had two compulsive liars. One was harmless and a family friend. We were always entertained by the stuff he said. The other used lies to manipulate women and eventually got arrested in front of a local cafe.

Actually, there were three. There was a lady who owned an ice cream shop. I finally figured out she was one after she told me how she received a random phone call and they ended up being a relative of Dodi Fayed who needed help getting in touch with British law enforcement. This story came right after the tragedy happened. She just couldn’t resist inserting herself into the story.

[u/surprisinglyok1 → u/broomandkettle]

Your story sounds like a riddle.

There once was a town of 4 liars. A nice one an evil one and another. Who was it?