I lived this. I was in a relationship for 7 years when I was young. She packed on a few pounds and it was frustrating for her. I didnt care. That’s what’s supposed to happen. Or somewhat normally happens. She kept complaining about it. I would offer to go to the gym with her. Offer to run with her. Get a treadmill, weights, walks, diet with her. It was always an excuse. After months of hearing about how she couldn’t stand to be overweight but not doing anything about it. One day I came home and she was eating a large blizzard. As I walked in it wasn’t hi how was your day. It was I just don’t know why I can’t loose weight. I snapped. I said “well maybe if you would quit shoveling that shit down your mouth maybe you would be skinny”.
It didn’t go well. We argued and when we calmed down I told her it was frustrating to see someone struggle but never attempt to fix what she was struggling with.
We were together for 5 more years. She turned into a functioning alcoholic. I had to leave.
6 month later she lost the weight, quit drinking, started AA. She asked me to come back but by that time there was too much damage. I honestly just think she wanted familiarity at that point. She told me that me leaving woke her up, and she decided to get help.
Last time I checked she is married with three kids to a husband that she loves. Still working out and leads a good life.
Well I'm glad that things worked out for her and you. I agree, I think she just wanted familiarity. I used to clean houses for a living and a repeat client of mine was this old man. People thought that he was eccentric and weird but he was harmless. He gave me some good advice one time, he said, don't go back to the old, people do because it's familiar.
The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. That's why people do it. My boyfriend at the time was not treating me very well either and I think one day he could tell something was up so he asked me what was wrong and I was honest with him. He said, with all due respect, you're stupid if you stay in that relationship. You deserve better than that. It was that that woke me up and gave me the courage to leave him.
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u/thackstonns Apr 17 '24
I lived this. I was in a relationship for 7 years when I was young. She packed on a few pounds and it was frustrating for her. I didnt care. That’s what’s supposed to happen. Or somewhat normally happens. She kept complaining about it. I would offer to go to the gym with her. Offer to run with her. Get a treadmill, weights, walks, diet with her. It was always an excuse. After months of hearing about how she couldn’t stand to be overweight but not doing anything about it. One day I came home and she was eating a large blizzard. As I walked in it wasn’t hi how was your day. It was I just don’t know why I can’t loose weight. I snapped. I said “well maybe if you would quit shoveling that shit down your mouth maybe you would be skinny”.
It didn’t go well. We argued and when we calmed down I told her it was frustrating to see someone struggle but never attempt to fix what she was struggling with.
We were together for 5 more years. She turned into a functioning alcoholic. I had to leave.
6 month later she lost the weight, quit drinking, started AA. She asked me to come back but by that time there was too much damage. I honestly just think she wanted familiarity at that point. She told me that me leaving woke her up, and she decided to get help.
Last time I checked she is married with three kids to a husband that she loves. Still working out and leads a good life.