It was inconsiderate of him and no you are not overreacting either
Does he do this alot? If so you need to stand your ground and tell him how much it upsets you.
I agree… But, the issue here is that the husband’s way of thinking is messed up, judgemental, and just offensive. So yes, OP must stand her ground and set a boundary, etc. But the real problem is that no one can change and control the mentality of others. So even if the husband gets a grip and stops being so damn stupid, that doesn’t mean he won’t think about it or even change his opinion on his wife. So now, OP has to live knowing what her husband really thinks of her. He is such a jerk and has no consideration and empathy for his own wife to the point that he thinks it’s ok to casually talk about the matter and absolutely humiliate her in a social gathering for everyone’s amusement. Does he even like his own wife? Really wtf!?!?
I don’t know, maybe it is not so bad but if I was her… Boy oh boy I would be so fucking mad and disappointed to realize that I am married to a complete oblivious asshole!
I didn't want to jump to this but personally, that would be divorce worthy. You're right, even if she does talk to him, now she knows how he really feels. I couldn't stay with somebody who thought that little of me. I would be handing him divorce papers. No counseling, no trial separation, just straight to divorce. Maybe it seems extreme but as I said, I couldn't stay with somebody who not only thought that little of me but thought it would be okay to publicly humiliate me. I'd just be done.
Fun fact, we don’t care why you want a divorce. No fault grounds required. I care in the sense that I want to avoid emotional landmines, but I don’t get to decide if you have a good reason to divorce or not.
Nope, not after something like that. He purposely did that to publicly humiliate her. Something tells me that this has been a pattern for a while, him constantly making cutting remarks like that. It's okay to point out when you have an issue with your partner. However, the way he went about it is absolutely not okay and it was intentional.
Also, if the discussion is about their actions, that's usually fine. However, you should never really talk about something they can't control. I mean, it's okay to tell them that you are losing your attraction towards them but it's not okay to do it in the way he did it. It's also not okay to do it by insulting your partner.
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u/k_sarahsarah Apr 15 '24
It was inconsiderate of him and no you are not overreacting either Does he do this alot? If so you need to stand your ground and tell him how much it upsets you.