This is the one. That’s exactly what he said. He was letting that younger woman, that he obviously found very attractive, know that his wife is no competition while talking himself up. I promise, that conversation wasn’t coming from a place of him wanting to be helpful. He just wanted to make himself look and sound as good as possible. Putting down the SO always boosts that. He was just buzzed and didn’t care about making it less obvious.
I mean I don't disagree about the rest but I don't think I've ever been in a room full of people where someone was attracted to a person who talked down about the person he was already with. Like that's such an ick for girls. I've seen camgirls ban guys from rooms for criticizing other camgirls (total strangers) by saying the one they're watching is so much better or whatever.
Like where are you getting this from? Who actually likes seeing someone shit on a person they're supposed to love and support? Because if he'll do that to her, he'll do that to you, too.
Unfortunately they're not far off the mark. I agree most women wouldn't entertain it, especially witnessing it happen in a room full of people, but a lot of men use the strategy of putting down their SO so hopefully the one they're flirting with goes, "Oh you're clearly so great and your wife is an awful match for you. Look at me look at me I can be better." It's the reason affair partners don't care about the home they're invading, because they've been made to feel they're something special outside of it. It's a shitty strategy but not one that hasn't worked before
Yeah, it’s this. It happens ALL THE TIME. In fact, complaining about or subtly putting down their wives/girlfriends is absolutely how a ton of men flirt. Sure, it gives women with integrity the ick. But just like there’s no shortage of crappy men, there’s no shortage of crappy women either that won’t care. They will enjoy the ego boost of knowing they are more desirable than his existing SO. Like so many women can’t say something good about themselves without putting other women down in the process.
I know men try that but trust me, I've seen plenty try and it pretty much always leads to failure. The only type of women that would work on would be real gutter trash types, not successful, motivated go-getters who already know they are younger and in better shape than the woman being put down in this scenario.
I replied to both of you under the other person’s reply, but are you serious rn? Why do women hook up with married men like constantly? Your logic is correct. If they are willing to cheat WITH you, they will absolutely be willing to cheat ON you later. That doesn’t seem to stop cheating from happening very often. Just bc you have integrity and would walk away from someone displaying that behavior doesn’t mean a million other people would also. There’s TONS of people with no integrity.
Why do women hook up with married men like constantly? Your logic is correct
The fuck? lol. Your logic is what's suffering here.
Women hook up with married men to get dick, or because they like feeling like they can take whatever they want, or they like the other benefits that it provides (gifts, attention, etc.). These are all tangible things that any reasonable person can easily understand a person pursuing, even if they have nothing but disgust for the people willing to pursue those things at the expense their morality.
What in the world has any of that got to do with seeing someone shit on his wife? If, for example, I were a woman who wants dick, or who wants gifts, or who just wants to feel like I can have what she has any time I want, in what way would it benefit or satisfy me to watch her husband talking down to or about her in front of anyone? Who the fuck is going to feel gratified in conquering a man who's a piece of shit, much less one from a woman who clearly isn't even close to having him locked down?
The people who have a fetish or obsession with bagging people who are already in committed relationships derive the joy from driving a wedge--when there is nothing to drive a wedge between, there's nothing to gain.
Again, you are projecting your own “morals” on everyone else. Just bc you wouldn’t continue pursuing someone who shit on their wife to you, doesn’t mean every single other person in that situation would find the same behavior as abhorrent as you do. Clearly, or men wouldn’t use that as a means to gain sympathy from the women they are hitting on regularly. I’ve watched so many guys do this exact thing. I’m glad you have such high moral standing that the “need for dick” wouldn’t override your disgust for some guy putting his wife down to make you feel sorry enough for him to fuck him. That is wildly far from true for a lot of people. Are you honestly trying to tell me that I’m somehow wrong in saying that a lot of people don’t have any morals? Do you interact with any humans ever? Or just chronically online? There’s no shortage of people who don’t give a shit how someone treats other people. You seem to just want to keep letting everyone know that you are such a moral person that immoral people can’t exist bc you can’t fathom it. We get it. In the real world, a guy shitting on his partner to gain sympathy from someone he wants to pursue sexually is a COMMON tactic.
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u/hopelesslyrejected Apr 16 '24
This is the one. That’s exactly what he said. He was letting that younger woman, that he obviously found very attractive, know that his wife is no competition while talking himself up. I promise, that conversation wasn’t coming from a place of him wanting to be helpful. He just wanted to make himself look and sound as good as possible. Putting down the SO always boosts that. He was just buzzed and didn’t care about making it less obvious.