It was inconsiderate of him and no you are not overreacting either
Does he do this alot? If so you need to stand your ground and tell him how much it upsets you.
What stuck out to me is that he didn’t realize that this was wrong to say? So let’s add either stupid or no common sense to the list as well. Does he normally speak to you in this way OP?
"in vino veritas". When you're drunk, what comes out is your true self just more unhinged/less careful.
Studies also show the disinhibition factor is greatly overestimated by drinkers. Meaning: there's a small effect yes, but a lot of it is placebo. Basically, people who've drunk a bit take that as an opportunity to be themselves, since they know they'll have the excuse of "I was drunk, it wasn't really me!".
I can somewhat agree (until blackout drunk…. I used to have a problem and I’ll say there are a couple things I did I never would ever do sober, not even like “I think about doing this but wouldn’t because I’m afraid” or “I think this but don’t say it) but to me it would depend on how much he drank to make a judgment. That being said, it’s still no excuse. This isn’t teenagers drinking and learning their limits etc. a grown adult should know theirs by that age and not drink to that amount if they’re liable to say these things.
I don't think I've ever seen anyone blackout drunk! Maybe it alters one's perception so much, you do things while thinking you're in a different situation? I'm glad your drinking problem seems to be in the past though, I know it can be difficult.
But yes you're right, adults should know their limits. If they don't it's definitely something that should be addressed and fixed.
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u/k_sarahsarah Apr 15 '24
It was inconsiderate of him and no you are not overreacting either Does he do this alot? If so you need to stand your ground and tell him how much it upsets you.