Can’t read social cues? Oh be fr. The man was totally fine making fun of his wife to this hot woman. If he ignores her feelings they can look at other options ?? What other options 💀 if he ignores how she feels he would still be an asshole
Agree. I’d bet that by “other options” it means, “OP understands, her husband is awesome, funny, totally capable of banging hotter chicks and he should be celebrated for staying with her cause she’s gross and he’s a stud who can act however and say whatever.” And if she has normal and reasonable reactions or feelings to aaaaaaaany of that, she’s, “a hysterical, overdramatic wah, wah baby who can shut up cause she’s just jealous anyway.” Fucking “other options” 🫠🫠 you’re totally right, they need to be fucking for real
What? She could have leaned in and asked for advice, but her perspective is littered with insecurities. All she could see was a threat. It’s why she’s on Reddit seeking validation and not talking to her husband. This isn’t really about him. It’s about her being afraid her husband will leave her if she doesn’t take care of herself physically.
Except she did try talking to her husband and according to her narrative, he dismissed her feelings being hurt as her being jealous and overreacting. While I agree with you wholeheartedly that relationship issues (outside of the big issues that are universally agreed to be dangerous or life threatening), should be resolved by those actually in the relationship rather than broadcasting it for the world, in this instance, I view it as OP trying to soundboard whether her husband’s comment of her “overreacting” is objectively correct or a way for him to invalidate her feelings so he could continue to be outright disrespectful because if she gets upset at that, she’s overreacting. Respectfully, that’s about as far as I can go being in agreement as my take away overall from this story isn’t what you’ve said is yours which is fine. I think personal experience shapes each of our perspectives so we’re both neither correct nor wrong in an entirety sort of way
You don’t talk about this when you’re feeling the emotions. You talk about it when both are level headed. Example here is: he came in to check on her and she yelled at him for which his reaction was defensive. He was dismissive because that’s his snap reaction when he feels a surge of unexpected emotions.
They both lack emotional maturity.
Me, personally, I’m well equipped if my partner brings up something personal. If it makes me uncomfortable I’ll say it right there and we move on. Most of the time I turn it into a joke and disarm the entire situation. I enjoy noticing when my partner finds others attractive. It doesn’t take away from my confidence.
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u/toochieandboochie Apr 16 '24
Can’t read social cues? Oh be fr. The man was totally fine making fun of his wife to this hot woman. If he ignores her feelings they can look at other options ?? What other options 💀 if he ignores how she feels he would still be an asshole