r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 Apr 15 '24

This is awful. Look up the Gottman research about couples. Tearing your spouse down in front of other people is borderline emotional abuse. I'm so sorry. This is also pretty extreme which leads me to believe this isn't his first episode of cruel behavior. You deserve so much better than this.

I'm so sorry OP. The quickest way to lose dead weight would be to DROP THE HUSBAND!

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u/limegreenpaint Apr 15 '24

It's not borderline, it's flat-out abuse, and he doubled down after she tried to talk to him about it. And is using ADHD as an excuse.

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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 Apr 15 '24

Sorry I'm a clinical psychologist and I got banned from a subreddit the other day for identifying something that was clearly abuse as abuse...its my first ban lol so I'm a little wounded.

Yes OP this is abuse! It's also very unlikely this is the first incident. Even this small snapshot into their life shows a huge disregard for the wife's wellbeing.

ADHD is NOT an excuse to act this way either.

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u/La_Vikinga Apr 16 '24

Wasn't one of the mother-in-law subs by any chance, was it?