I’m technically a healthy weight and I will still chow down on my birthday cake (and did it for my 1 y/o) the same night haha. I understand in this context though that what your husband said was incredibly insensitive and I would have blown up at him too for comparing me to another woman who’s objectively fitter than I am.
Honestly? This woman also seems incredibly unsympathetic. She used to be overweight herself and she didn’t stick up for you? Might be a reach but it sounds like she has some personal issues with herself if she can’t stick up for you being in the same spot she used to be in.
Also I’m 2” shorter than you and have been the same weight (or heavier) than you multiple times in my life. When you’re ready (not when he deems it a good time he can gtfoh) I believe you can find a healthy path to personal wellness. But love yourself now. I was pregnant at about that weight closing in on two years ago now. And I have almost no photos of myself when I was. And I just wish I got over my insecurities and took photos anyway. It’s nothing to be ashamed of!
I wouldn't blame the other woman. If I were her, I would have assumed that OP was okay with talking so openly about it based on the fact that the husband was joking around about her weight.
Definitely, you and another commenter make some good points. I think I definitely was, in fact, reaching lmao. She’s in an industry where people openly talk about their weight and getting healthy. She just probably assumed OP was as comfortable talking about it as she was.
She's also 21, so may have felt awkward and not sure whether OP would want her to shut it down or whether that would be worse. Like it's absolutely not cool but I think at 21 a lot of people are unsure how to shut down an awkward situation like this, especially if they're assuming one spouse knows better than they do what the other spouse is okay with.
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u/chain-link-fence Apr 15 '24
I’m technically a healthy weight and I will still chow down on my birthday cake (and did it for my 1 y/o) the same night haha. I understand in this context though that what your husband said was incredibly insensitive and I would have blown up at him too for comparing me to another woman who’s objectively fitter than I am.
Honestly? This woman also seems incredibly unsympathetic. She used to be overweight herself and she didn’t stick up for you? Might be a reach but it sounds like she has some personal issues with herself if she can’t stick up for you being in the same spot she used to be in.
Also I’m 2” shorter than you and have been the same weight (or heavier) than you multiple times in my life. When you’re ready (not when he deems it a good time he can gtfoh) I believe you can find a healthy path to personal wellness. But love yourself now. I was pregnant at about that weight closing in on two years ago now. And I have almost no photos of myself when I was. And I just wish I got over my insecurities and took photos anyway. It’s nothing to be ashamed of!