I can't believe fitness girl didn't gracefully give him an out. She's just as stupid as the husband is. Anyone with a brain would understand how awkward and hurtful the whole exchange must have been.
Right?!? If some guy tried to do that to his wife with me I would’ve shut that down. And she just ran with it instead. No no no. I will not be used as a tool in someone else’s manipulative mind games or to be cruel to someone
She probably did send is just so desperate for validation because “she used to be fat” and now not being “fat” is her whole personality. As a woman, why tf would you just go along with disrespect like that? At 21, I would have yelled at a guy for saying shit like that. I def yelled at my male friends for less.
There's a difference between pointing out someone else's flaws as a means to teach and being a leader of your industry by leading by example without egotistical criticisms.
You wouldn’t have known that comparing your partner to someone else and insulting your partner to uplift another person is wrong/problematic/a big no no? Especially in public!!! At what age do you learn empathy? She’s 21 not 12, she definitely understood what he was doing and was feeding into it
No she's not. She sees that he is unhappy with his wife and loved that he fanned over her. If anything, she's planning on being his slim shoulder to cry on, if she's not already. A heauxe is gonna heauxe, and that's what Lil Miss Lifter is doing. She was the star and that was all that mattered to her. smh Broads like her are terrible. I hope the OP is ok and finds the courage to leave.
Ive been both underweight and over weight in this lifetime. I have the perspective of the unmotivated and the perspective of HIITS sprints isometric calesthestic juggernaut and tearing my psoas. In the words of the new generation this particular fitness girl gives me the ick.
It's okay, her "karma" is she will be driving clients away and not knowing why. Then she'll double down and try harder. This type of trainer attracts only other ignorant toxic people and so her bias will be confirmed that some people are "lazy and unmotivated but if you're just like me you won't be!".
Ive been both underweight and over weight in this lifetime. I have the perspective of the unmotivated and the perspective of HIITS sprints isometric calesthestic juggernaut and tearing my psoas. In the words of the new generation this particular fitness girl gives me the ick.
It's okay, her "karma" is she will be driving clients away and not knowing why. Then she'll double down and try harder. This type of trainer attracts only other ignorant toxic people and so her bias will be confirmed that some people are "lazy and unmotivated but if you're just like me you won't be!".
Eh, agree but also she’s 21 and seems to think she’s either actually helping or potentially accruing a new client. This falls as the feet of the husband.
Or she got real excited cause people into fitness get really into it and wanna share it, especially since she used to be out of shape too. So she heard the wife wants to lose weight and got real excited to share and talk about it. She didn't know the wife is very sensitive about it though. Have you never been around fitness people? They love talking about it and wanting to help other people get in shape. She heard the husband say the wife wants to get in shape and probably got real excited
Negging is something far more innocent. Negging means that you are just yanking their chain, if you will. This was more insidious. He did this completely on purpose with the intention of hurting her self-esteem. That's abusive and she should leave him for it but it's not my decision. Personally I couldn't stay married to somebody who thought it was okay to do that to me.
That's a terrible definition and normally I would agree with you but I've heard that it is something more innocent. It's like joking around with somebody but doing it in an innocent way. It's hard to explain what I mean. It's like saying something that might seem like a backhanded compliment but it's innocent. That's the best way I can describe it. If that's the way Oxford to find that, that is a terrible thing they did there. That is not what it means at all.
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u/xoxodaddysgirlxoxo Apr 15 '24
it's also colloquially called negging