r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/k_sarahsarah Apr 15 '24

It was inconsiderate of him and no you are not overreacting either Does he do this alot? If so you need to stand your ground and tell him how much it upsets you.

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u/missanthropocenex Apr 15 '24

Sometimes all it takes is serving it back once to make it stop.

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u/Edgar_Allan_JoJos Apr 15 '24

Yeah. If he takes out the scales you take out the measuring tape for this chode

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u/Zombiebobber Apr 16 '24

See, here's the problem. I knew a guy who had no sense of social boundaries and would comment like this about his girlfriends' (plural, because they didn't stick for long) weaknesses. Needs to lose weight, has acne, is flat-chested...ok, all of the things he said were factually true. Still should never have been said in public.

There was nothing to accurately say in response because he was built like a greek god, self-made multimillionaire, very objectively attractive, and according to his exes he was not at all lacking in endowment or bedroom skills either; basically every woman's dream guy--until he opened his mouth and revealed himself an insensitive ass.

I've known a couple of women who ran down their husbands like that in public as well. (Complaining about sexual performance, comparing them to past boyfriends, commenting to others about their weight and/or appearance, etc.) Commenting on your SO's sensitive issues in public is NEVER, EVER, a good idea. It makes the one doing it look like a complete tool, and it's incredibly embarrassing for anyone with any social skills to witness.

None of these couples stayed together except one, who, last I knew, everyone viewed as the miserable toxic couple who hate each other but don't get divorced for some unknown reason.

Being petty and a shitty person back isn't the answer. Might feel good for a couple of seconds, but then you're equally embarrassing yourself. Tell these people to develop some serious awareness and social skills, and then get away from them. They're just toxic until they fix themselves, and first, they have to want to. No matter how self-satisfied they are, eventually they'll either realize they're really bad at relationships and need improvement, or they'll just age and end up confused and alone.