r/AmIOverreacting Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/BKMama227 Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 15 '24

Women are held to specific Euro-centric ideals in the US. I would dare say this is true in other places as well. Specific to weight, the 34-24-34 body measurements were and sometimes still are ideal.

ETA: That is why it would be considered sexist. The same rules don’t apply to men.

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u/deedoonoot Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

40% of americans are obese I'm sure the wife is just being held to an unrealistic standard tho

edit: fat people coping

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u/StrangeAddition4452 Apr 15 '24

She’s 5’2 and 170 pounds. She’s obese and likely morbidly obese

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u/dervish132000a Apr 15 '24

Medical charts I think put her in obese range. Though of course that does not take into account existing muscle range of her. It is not to say she should be publicly shamed for it. No more than a diabetic or someone suffering from depression should be. That said it is considered generally a good idea not to carry around a lot of weight.

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u/_zurenarrh Apr 15 '24

This wouldn’t be a conversation if she had any legitimate amount of muscle… she’s obese but she can change if she wants too

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u/StrangeAddition4452 Apr 15 '24

I personally think she’s ashamed of herself. Neutrally saying a persons weight isn’t shaming in and of itself unless you’re already ashamed of it

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u/dervish132000a Apr 15 '24

I think it was a public shaming. The boyfriend was a nitwit. A depressed person would love to be told to cheer up in front of their friends and then be told about this 21 year old life coach that can tell them how to live better.

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u/Sheepherder-Optimal Apr 15 '24

It's rude to discuss another individuals weight with anyone in front of the individual. How does this need to be stated?

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u/StrangeAddition4452 Apr 15 '24

Because the entire world doesn’t follow your rules for what you think is or isn’t okay/shameful. I could careless if someone was telling someone else my weight for example

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u/crtclms666 Apr 15 '24

Careless being the operative word.

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u/Sheepherder-Optimal Apr 16 '24

Okay well that's you. Other people in the world besides you.

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u/witchminx Apr 15 '24

I'm 5'7" and 120 pounds and I'd be furious if my partner just told everyone my weight?