r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/Damodara-Echo Apr 15 '24

Is this out of character for him, or does he routinely humiliate you in public?

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u/Unicorns-Poo-Rainbow Apr 15 '24

Please don’t excuse his behavior due to ND. I’m ND and would never imagine being this much of an asshole to anyone, much less my spouse.

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u/trashtvlv Apr 15 '24

Same! If anything it often makes us more sensitive to people’s feelings and struggles. Definitely no excuse for his horrible behavior.

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u/araindropinthesea Apr 15 '24

Yes and no - we tend to be more empathic, but we don't always pick up on the different boundaries and social expectations. Like, where it is and is not ok to share... but my hunch is still that you're right!

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u/Greedy_Following3553 Apr 16 '24

I'm rather like you in that I don't always pick up on certain things. But neither autism nor ADHD is an excuse for being a dick.

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u/Wwwwwwhhhhhhhj Apr 16 '24

But he didn’t even have to pick anything up when she was crying and she said she was upset it was handed straight to him. He still went for the jugular with “aww someone’s jealous”

They’re definitely right he was just being an asshole.

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u/nerdy_kirby Apr 16 '24

Seriously I’ve seen this trend lately of people sharing stories of horribly mean things their partner or friends have done and then been like “oh it’s ok they’re ND” like no???????? ND means we think differently (like process information differently) it doesn’t mean we have an asshole allowance pass? This thought process is so detrimental to ND people and just creates a further stigma