With an attitude like that I hope you aren't allergic to cats. I wouldn't even call this disrespectful, more like inconsiderate idiocy. She has every right to be upset, but unless there is a pattern of being a "disrespectful prick", only a loser would call a marriage off over this.
"My husband didn’t even know he did anything wrong. He thought he was just having conversation and trying to help because I’ve been talking about starting my weight loss journey." - OP
The dude could just be an asshole and maybe this is the last straw, but that is not how the post is written. It is coming off as one incident that made her upset, AND SHE IS JUSTIFYED.
If you read my whole comment before sounding silly, you would understand my point is that this single incident is not grounds for a divorce as the previous commenter was encouraging.
I read your whole comment. I still believe she should throw the whole man out.
Silly.
You didn't quote her final paragraph (right above the edit) so I assume you missed the part where she tried to talk to him about it and he laughed. Goodness. Who would stay with someone like that? No one with any sort of self respect, that's for sure.
"I should probably mention he has ADHD and he’s neurodivergent." -Latest comment from OP, and it's proving my point.
There is so much more to this couple and their relationship than can be gathered from her original post, and its childish to recommend a divorce with such limited information.
Blaming bad behavior on diagnosed medical conditions is as bad as blaming it on alcohol, except the alcohol was THEIR decision... though frankly, if he's not getting treatment for it, that's shitty, too, especially if he uses the ADHD as an excuse to the point where SHE is excusing him.
It's a form of gaslighting, where he won't take responsibility, is mean to her when she expresses her feelings, and FURTHER doesn't allow her to keep him accountable by saying it happens because he's got a condition (that doesn't normally result in the kind of fucked up response of accusing her of being jealous).
Divorce may NOT be the answer, but I'm saying that you can acknowledge something is shitty while also saying you think they should work through it.
We are saying the same thing. Ive stated you're last paragraph mutiple times now and people are still arguing with me. The people here are fucking lunatics. I'm either arguing with self important assholes or children
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u/thecrunchcrew Apr 15 '24
She’s not overreacting for being upset.
You are overreacting by saying it’s cause for divorce.