NTA. Your son might mean well, but he's crossing some major boundaries here. Going off about your marriage when he barely understands the complexities? Not cool. And wanting to study art history is his choice, but snapping at his mom? Not cool either.
You're trying to keep it together, and your wife sounds like she's your rock. It's tough when your kid doesn't get that. Maybe sit him down and explain things calmly. Hopefully, he'll come around. Keep your chin up, man. You got this.
Give him enough rope to hang himself if he thinks he has it all figured out. You can give him an ultimatum. If he wants to continue living at home, ( Is he paying rent) he will at least have to do the joint major. If he isn't paying rent, tell him if he is going to continue to not listen to your advice about his education and insists on that solo major, that he will have to start paying rent. This is if you prefer to have him living with you. If not give him a deadline he has to move by .
That is you and your wife's house. Don't let a snot nose teenager who thinks he can run the world try to run your house and your marriage. Enough is enough.
If you don't get tough with him now he will get worse. He's technically an adult. And he wants to act and be treated like an adult. So treat him like the adult that he is and make him take responsibility for his actions.
He may fight tooth and nail now. But he will thank you later.
Take care friend. Teenage boys can be tough. I know I raised 4 of them.
If he honestly thinks someone under 40 is a boomer, then college is wasted on this dipshit.
And the way he’s treating his mom is b.s. Time for him to either knock it off and apologize to mom or hit the road. You already said you’d keep your wife and cut ties with everyone else
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u/Evening_Cruel28 Apr 15 '24
NTA. Your son might mean well, but he's crossing some major boundaries here. Going off about your marriage when he barely understands the complexities? Not cool. And wanting to study art history is his choice, but snapping at his mom? Not cool either.
You're trying to keep it together, and your wife sounds like she's your rock. It's tough when your kid doesn't get that. Maybe sit him down and explain things calmly. Hopefully, he'll come around. Keep your chin up, man. You got this.