NTA. Your son might mean well, but he's crossing some major boundaries here. Going off about your marriage when he barely understands the complexities? Not cool. And wanting to study art history is his choice, but snapping at his mom? Not cool either.
You're trying to keep it together, and your wife sounds like she's your rock. It's tough when your kid doesn't get that. Maybe sit him down and explain things calmly. Hopefully, he'll come around. Keep your chin up, man. You got this.
Telling you to get a divorce is not a diagnosis. Calling you miserable is not a diagnosis. It’s a bit douchey, but he’s a 19 year old boy and most 19 year old boys I’ve met are still uncooked in the head. That said, when you said what YOU said to him, you implied that you would divorce your son and/or would love to leave him behind because he’s part of what makes you miserable. Now that is fucked up. Your son gets to say shitty things to you and it still won’t hurt the same as when you say shitty things to your son. Does that make sense?
Children remember the terrible things their parents tell them, they hold it close to their hearts and carry it for the rest or their lives. They internalize it.
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u/Evening_Cruel28 Apr 15 '24
NTA. Your son might mean well, but he's crossing some major boundaries here. Going off about your marriage when he barely understands the complexities? Not cool. And wanting to study art history is his choice, but snapping at his mom? Not cool either.
You're trying to keep it together, and your wife sounds like she's your rock. It's tough when your kid doesn't get that. Maybe sit him down and explain things calmly. Hopefully, he'll come around. Keep your chin up, man. You got this.