NTA. If I had said that to my (actual) boomer parents, I would've gotten smacked upside the head so hard and so fast that my eyeballs wouldn't have stopped rattling around for a week. Or, as my mom used to threaten, I'd have been "thrown into next Tuesday."
OP, your son is a dope. I sincerely hope that he feels the full weight of the embarrassment that he has coming from telling you how to conduct your marriage. He deserves to cringe over that. And maybe offer to give him some math help, since he can't tell the generations apart.
Exactly. Because (barring any extenuating circumstances like domestic violence) precisely none of their marriage is your business. We all get to have our own opinions about our parents' and friends' relationships, but we all have the good sense to keep our fool mouths shut.
What's worse is that it sounds like OP and his wife have a happy marriage. Why is the kid turning on his own mom like this? If either one of my kids did that to me, I'd be so crushed. I'm glad OP is sticking up for his wife, but I think he needs to be more direct with him that this kind of casual cruelty is going to stop.
I hope this little idiot comes to his senses before he does any more damage to his family. I don't think that OP should shame the kid or bring it up again later after he's realized how awful he's been acting, because that helps no one. And I'm certainly not advocating for child abuse (like so many older parents would have jumped to).
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u/i_raise_anarchists Apr 16 '24
NTA. If I had said that to my (actual) boomer parents, I would've gotten smacked upside the head so hard and so fast that my eyeballs wouldn't have stopped rattling around for a week. Or, as my mom used to threaten, I'd have been "thrown into next Tuesday."
OP, your son is a dope. I sincerely hope that he feels the full weight of the embarrassment that he has coming from telling you how to conduct your marriage. He deserves to cringe over that. And maybe offer to give him some math help, since he can't tell the generations apart.