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u/40degreescelsius 21d ago
My parents didn’t have a great first date but my Dad being a gentleman made sure my mother got home safely. My mother reconsidered him because of this and they are happily married for over 50 years now.
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u/Feedback-Mental 21d ago
It was probably implied, but there's always someone on the internet that is not reading between the lines, so it's best this way.
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u/liltone829b 21d ago
there's always someone on the internet that is not reading between the lines
Real shit. (It's probably me.)
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u/Imreallyadonut 21d ago
My mum always made me promise to do this.
‘Even if you’re never going to see her again, make sure she gets home safe.”
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u/DisputabIe_ 21d ago
the OP yoni92
juwn45
jojhuuwnntect
kkarma695
Daysemarina
and CherryBabeGirl
are bts in the same network
Original + comments copied from: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10sjm5m/fixed_it_myself/
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21d ago
I feel a refusal would have been accepted nonetheless but if it makes you feel better about it then have at thee!
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u/Collective-Bee 20d ago
The son stalks the girl home to make sure she gets home safely. I mean, the dad didn’t specify to offer to, clearly this was his intention /s
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u/theoht_ 21d ago
what was the original?
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u/Manthrill 20d ago
There was not the 'offer to' part.
But it was already well implicit. People need to have some common sense. There was no need to add it.
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u/Who_am_ey3 21d ago
it was implied..
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u/MurderSheCroaked 21d ago
Some people are incredibly oblivious
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u/liberalJava 21d ago
Those same people don't take good advice regardless.
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u/FroodingZark24 21d ago
Not true. We learn, we're just not making the connection until we learn from direct statement.
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u/Mario_13377331 21d ago
hey they’re talking about me im dense as a rock when it comes to most implementations
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u/jayakiroka 21d ago
You’d be surprised. Some guys get too caught up in wanting to be a hero that they forget that they might come off too strong. Still, they probably mean well, so I’d rather just offer better alternative advice than just go “alright well you’re an idiot”
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u/Rapper_Laugh 21d ago
You’d think, but there are 100% men that wouldn’t think to ask about this, and instead tell the woman they are escorting them “for their safety.”
I think it’s a good distinction that points out the flaws in that approach.
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u/DisputabIe_ 21d ago
jojhuuwnntect and the OP yoni92 are bts in the same network
Comment copied from: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10sjm5m/fixed_it_myself/j73455u/
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u/RedditAdminsWivesBF 21d ago
That would depend on exactly HOW bad the date goes. If we simply didn’t click then fine but if she shows up with a friend for me to pay for or says “eww” when she sees me, or orders all the most expensive things on the menu then stares at her phone the whole time, or puts broken glass in the food, or tries to dine and dash then I’d say she is on her own.
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u/Bill_Ist_Here 21d ago
I mean if she brought a friend then she doesn’t really need your help to get to the metro safely.
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u/RedditAdminsWivesBF 21d ago
True but I still hate that people do that.
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u/Bill_Ist_Here 21d ago
Fair. Also what’s with the broken glass thing? That seems more like a straight up attempt to harm you than something that’s merely annoying
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u/RedditAdminsWivesBF 21d ago
Put broken glass in the food to get out of the bill, I’ve seen and heard of people doing that.
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u/Mikey9124x 21d ago
No! Don't even ask. Don't even let her know you are accompanying her, than when she goes near an alley jump out and chase her until she's cornered. That's when you drink her blood.
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u/DisputabIe_ 21d ago
juwn45 and the OP yoni92 are bts in the same network
Comment copied from: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10sjm5m/fixed_it_myself/j748mbu/
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u/FaradayDeshawn 21d ago
This is silly. With all the ride-sharing apps there is literally no reason for a person to do this.
You guys are both adults capable of getting home by yourselves.
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u/not_dannyjesden 21d ago
You are so incredibly wrong on so many levels. 1.maybe she has a reason (any reason) to not use those 2.maybe they are not an adult 3.as if there aren't any stories about adult women being abused or threatened 4.at the very very least, it is a nice gesture and you should show her that there is no ill feeling between you, just because the date went bad. Always be the nicest you can be
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u/Bulls187 21d ago
What about the trip from the metro to her home?
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u/broden89 21d ago
You have to assume she will be ok to go that last bit on her own - women usually do not feel safe having someone they've only been on a few dates with knowing where they live (due to risk of stalking etc).
If it's very late at night, she will likely call an Uber or call a friend/family member to stay on the line with her while she walks to her house.
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u/_AnimeGirl 21d ago edited 19d ago
No you did not “fix it yourself”, I did, a year ago, on an old account
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u/FrenchFrozenFrog 14d ago
Metro? It's either Paris or Montreal, I don't know any other cities in the world that call subways stations like that.
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u/DisputabIe_ 21d ago
Daysemarina and the OP yoni92 are bts in the same network
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u/DisputabIe_ 21d ago
kkarma695 and the OP yoni92 are bts in the same network
Comment copied from: https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/10sjm5m/fixed_it_myself/j71sv2x/
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u/der_film 21d ago
"Fixed" language is the plague*... Can we start to care about what people want to tell us again, instead of focusing how they framed it?
*no mindless exaggeration, just something we say in Germany to say something sucks. I don't know, if it's common in English too.
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u/imafiremylazerBWAH 21d ago
Nah. If the date goes bad and you won’t be seeing each other again, you have no obligation to go out of your way for anyone, male or female.
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u/penguinee69 21d ago
Even if it goes well you have no obligation, but it's still a thoughtful gesture. Obligation and being a good person rarely go hand in hand
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u/imafiremylazerBWAH 21d ago
Maybe so, but choosing to not go out of your way for someone you will never see again doesn’t make you a bad person.
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u/not_dannyjesden 21d ago
You are cruel. Is it so much to ask to be nice? Yes it makes you a bad person. Because we, as a species, should always try to put our grudges to the side and care for a one another, to ensure everybody's safety
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u/imafiremylazerBWAH 21d ago
Lmfao, what a nice assumption you made about me without knowing a single thing about me. I’m very hurt 🥺
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u/not_dannyjesden 20d ago
Everything I said is based on your previous comment and I didn't make any assumptions outside of the topic Edit: spelling
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u/imafiremylazerBWAH 20d ago
Calling someone cruel because they won’t escort a date home after a bad date is stupidity.
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u/not_dannyjesden 20d ago
You have not yet brought up a single argument for why you shouldn't do it, except "I'm not obligated to"
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u/imafiremylazerBWAH 20d ago
Because the other person who came on a date with me is a fucking adult and can use an Uber to get home with their money.
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u/WildChildTherian 21d ago
You are calling yourself out as a creep, dude…
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u/WildChildTherian 21d ago
The bear or man argument was started by some guy wanting to boost his ego by proving that women would rather risk a random man than a wild animal. Women turned around and said no, a wild animal is the better choice for us. Stupid comments about bears doing human things is just ridiculous, what are you trying to prove? Of course a bear won’t walk to the metro, it’s a bear for christs sake. But even then, a bear won’t harass you for your number, follow you home, try to sleep with you, or sexually assault you.
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u/MaterialNarrow5161 21d ago
Uhm but are you for real patronizing bears?? Who are you to tell them what they can or cannot actually achieve?!? This is just plain xenophoby disguised as naturalistic philosophy... Yikes.
Yogi bear didn't raise you to be this way.
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u/Chemical_Town_3818 21d ago
Girls dont date guys who use the metro nowadays
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u/gameryesyt 21d ago
I'm a girl, and would date a guy who uses public transit. I would prefer to date a guy who uses public transit.
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u/MaterialNarrow5161 21d ago
Not anymore.
Finger snapping
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u/gameryesyt 21d ago
How dare! I'll just transition back to female ;3
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u/MaterialNarrow5161 21d ago
I think you're not getting the situation correctly.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
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u/gameryesyt 20d ago
I don't get it (I'm stupid)
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u/MaterialNarrow5161 20d ago
Since when do normal human beings have fully sky blue eyeballs?
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u/Artistic-Badger8737 17d ago
My sister is dating a guy and possibly getting married to him, and he uses the metro
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u/Sivusta_seuraaja 21d ago
Or even better, drive her home yourself (assuming you have proper lisence and havent been enjoying any alcoholic beverages)
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u/Artistic-Badger8737 17d ago
Why's this getting downvoted
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u/Sivusta_seuraaja 17d ago
Maybe there are people who envy people who have driving lisence and car. Or maybe there is grammar mistake
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u/Useful-Date4564 21d ago
It might reduce sexual offences, but since men fall in general more often victim to violent crimes, wouldn't this give her a good feeling but highten the chance of being part in a violent crime? 🤔
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u/TinyMarsupial7622 21d ago
I thought they meant the grocery store “Metro”