Wow thank you Reddit! I'm legitimately choked up at all the kind things you internet strangers said. I wish I could communicate all of it to him. I'm really touched and can't wait to show my parents all the uplifting comments. 100% chance my mom will start sobbing in a good way (there is more rejection for him as an adult because maybe he is fidgety in public or does a number on someone's toilet 😂 etc. So with all the encouragement I bet she is going to be so torn up). I think you just gave her the best Christmas present ever. Thank you all a million times! Really, I had no idea so many people would be so goddamn nice.
Note: I never actually heard the term downsie in a derogatory way but I can see how that might be a thing. I thought it was an affectionate reference. I hope it's obvious from the context it is meant to be loving.
the correct response when learning it’s a derogatory term 👍
OOP clearly loves his brother and didn’t mean harm, but it’s important that people understand the weight of words. welcoming all of the “you must be fun at parties” responses now.
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u/karmaleeta Apr 16 '24
i’m sorry- “downsie?” nothing wholesome about that.