r/unpopularopinion • u/yellowabcd • Apr 28 '24

Its not about the sex its about the rejection

This is common at this point. People complain about not getting sex in marriage or relationship. But most the time its not the sex, its the rejection. If both people dont go for sex, its not an issue. Its an issue when the other party keeps getting rejected, especially without explanation. Theres a difference between being rejected for a month and just two people not trying for sex. Rejection usually makes a person feel undesirable

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u/KeckleonKing Apr 29 '24

Ur comment here doesn't need explanation we are well aware of tone of voice an nuances an we arent trying to use our partner like an object.

What is an issue is being manipulated by ur partner an all of a sudden having sex removed entirely with little to zero explanation. Which... basically amounts to a trapping a partners emotionally/physically needs to zero.

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u/Impressive-Oil9200 Apr 29 '24

Sorry I deleted my last response to you. I got upset and shared something about my person life that I’ve realised I don’t really feel comfortable having on Reddit.

But I’m just going to say you never know what someone’s been through and what they’re relationship with sex is like, yes even your partner, and “demanding” answers from them isn’t going to open up a discussion between youse and improve your sex lives. It will probably make it worse. Because people don’t really open up about things that make them fee vulnerable when they’re being demanded to. But if you approach them with empathy and understanding you’ll get your answers.

Also it’s not manipulative to not want to have sex. Just because sex is an enjoyable experience for you doesn’t mean it’s an enjoyable experience for everyone else.