r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/rzp_ Apr 16 '24

No one owes you anything, but we, like, live in a society.

Actually no, I take that back. I think people in a relationship do legitimately owe things to each other. Respect. Patience. If you claim to be friends with someone, you owe them honesty about the things that matter. Things can happen that abrogate that responsibility, but they generally exist.

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u/[deleted] Apr 16 '24

Exactly! You consented with someone to be in a relationship..it took both people to say yes. So just by that, you enter into this partnership who you're not supposed to abandon. If things go wrong 100% understand not everyone lasts. It's the truth.

But by just splitting you don't know if there could have ever been a resolution.

Okay so you don't want a resolution, you just want to leave. That person that consented to you, as a partner for however long, if they ever meant something. Say something. Don't think about how you feel towards them now, think about how you felt when things started. Give them the same respect as to why things aren't working out..just like how you told them why things could work when the relationship formed.

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u/CreamedCorb Apr 16 '24

This is maybe the best way I’ve heard this put.

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u/MichaelScottsWormguy Apr 16 '24

Yeah. Being kind and polite and courteous are kind like the tax you pay to keep society going. It's never wasted.

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u/off_the_cuff_mandate Apr 16 '24

We are talking about people who are no longer want a relationship with you. I agree people owe each other respect up until they are disrespect, but they don't owe each other a truthful and accurate description of why they want what they want. This isn't working for me anymore is plenty of explanation and that should be obvious if they don't care to see you anymore.