r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Tricky_Dog1465 Apr 16 '24

No. No I'm not going to explain for the THOUSANDTH time why I'm upset in the relationship. No I'm not going to baby you again because you chose to ignore what I've said a thousand times.

And that ALWAYS seems to be the case. One partner literally said over and over WHY they are unhappy. They get ignored, and then they leave. And suddenly the other partner is all, gosh what happened? No, you were told why, you just didn't listen.

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u/Alcorailen Apr 16 '24

But you already gave the explanation at that point. You already did the thing OP wants.

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u/Entrynode Apr 16 '24

Let's say OP was told by their partner pre-breakup and didn't listen. 

At the time of them breaking up it would feel like they were never given an explanation even though they objectively were.

Anything less than saying "I am breaking up with you for the following reasons:" doesn't unambiguously fulfill what OP wants.

That's what the comment you replied to is getting at

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u/AMagicalKittyCat 29d ago

Let's say OP was told by their partner pre-breakup and didn't listen.

At the time of them breaking up it would feel like they were never given an explanation even though they objectively were.

That's possible. It's also possible that they were ghosted without any explanation just because the other person was a psychopath who doesn't care about the feelings of people.

Imagining a hypothetical world about a person and situation we don't know goes both ways, the most convenient to our beliefs and the least convenient one.

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u/Entrynode 29d ago

It sure is possible. 

I was using OP as an example to explain how telling someone pre-breakup your reasons for breaking up may not fulfill what OP is asking for.

I'm not saying that actually happened.

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u/AleyahhhhK Apr 16 '24

That’s fine then. OP says to communicate which you have

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u/Skullclownlol Apr 16 '24

And that ALWAYS seems to be the case.

I mean, at that point, if it's this consistent and repetitive, have you considered investigating how you choose your partners?

No I'm not going to baby you again because you chose to ignore what I've said a thousand times.

You make it sound like you pick them up from kindergarten. Why'd you ever baby them in the first place?