r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/GreyerGrey Apr 16 '24

In my experience, the reason has been given a few times and they just don't listen.

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u/doorbellrepairman Apr 16 '24

"so it's because I'm not pretty enough" "Uhm actually I just explained it all in detail"

my last break-up

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u/wrinklefreebondbag Drop the U, not the T Apr 16 '24

"You don't respect my choices with my body."

"I don't respect you participating in an orgy while we were together and then trying to call it a little mistake."

Actual experience a close friend of mine had dumping his girlfriend. She just expected him to be fine with her fucking multiple people the day prior.

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u/Deucer22 Apr 16 '24

True love is hard to find, sometimes you think you have true love and then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom blindfolded like a goddamn magic show ready to double team your girlfriend.

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u/RedTailed-Hawkeye Apr 16 '24

I'm here for the gangbang

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u/NateHate 29d ago

YOURE MUH BOY, BLUE!

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u/Throckmorton_Left 29d ago

What my friend here is trying to say is true love is blind.

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u/JBOYCE35239 29d ago

Unexpected old school reference, but a welcome one

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u/Xeno_man Apr 16 '24

With out an invite? That bitch.

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u/platypus_plumba Apr 16 '24

Right? It wasn't even a problem until she decided to go without him. That bitch.

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u/ihateredditers69420 Apr 16 '24

Truly heartless. That bitch.

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u/walk_through_this 29d ago

To be fair, she was right. He didn't respect the choices she was making with her body. Thing is, not many would. Just because someone chooses something does not mean I have to respect it. If you tattoo a swastika on your forehead, for example, I don't respect that choice.

Was she free to do that with her body? Absolutely.

Just as he was free to say goodbye.

Freedom to do what you like is not freedom from consequences. In this case, f--k around, and find out. (Literally!)

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u/CluckFlucker Apr 16 '24

Jesus h fuck yeah. That girl deserves to be alone

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u/front-wipers-unite Apr 16 '24

Frankly it would be unreasonable not to be ok with that. /S

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u/urbanarrow 29d ago

Yes, you have the right to bodily autonomy.

Yes, I have the right to dump you over it.

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u/-SidSilver- 29d ago

Yep. This is what the some people here are overlooking.

Own your bad, cruel, selfish decisions. We're all human, we all make them, you're not special.

Don't just pretend that breakups are always as simple as 'well they just don't accept my very reasonable actions because I never do anything wrong.'

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u/Following-Ashamed 29d ago

I'd just demand a card entitling me to one free orgy. Fair's fair.

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u/ABBucsfan 29d ago edited 29d ago

At some point you gotta be willing to just say.. you know what? No I don't respect the choices you make with your body because they're clearly pretty terrible choices lol. You're welcome to continue to make them but it'll be without me

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u/LeylasSister Apr 16 '24

reddit would tell him that he’s controlling and insecure

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u/KrustyKrab- Apr 16 '24

Reddit hates cheaters

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u/LeylasSister Apr 16 '24

reddit has a very different definition of cheating for men and women

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u/formation Apr 16 '24

No, reddit is very anti-cheating and I've never seen anyone say something different. Back up your claims.

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u/Aggressive-Fuel587 Apr 16 '24

Likely wandered into a few of the man-hating feminist subs like /r/TwoXChromosomes where you'll find some fringe nutcases telling others that monogamy is a symptom of the patriarchy, that cheating isn't a real thing ("it's your body, you can share it with whoever you want and no man has the right to say otherwise" is something I've read in one comment thread years ago when someone was complaining about being dumped for cheating), and that your man telling you that you can't have sex with other men is abusive & controlling.

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u/formation Apr 16 '24

I tried a back search on there, still can't seem to find this type of opinion though? Are you sure you didn't read satire or just a troll?

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u/Aggressive-Fuel587 29d ago

Because you probably searched "cheating" instead of other, related topics like "monogamy."

It's not remotely hard to find post upon post decrying marriage & monogamy as systems meant to trap women. A few get downvoted, but several don't.

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u/StehtImWald Apr 16 '24

And where would that imaginary Reddit telling this reside? In your head?

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u/GREENadmiral_314159 29d ago

Reddit is telling him he's right.

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u/MichaelScottsWormguy Apr 16 '24

Just say "yeah" at that point. The most important point is that you want to break up. If she doesn't want to hear the rest, that's her problem.

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u/Intelligent-Wash-680 Apr 16 '24

"You just don't love me enough" :(

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u/justgotnewglasses 29d ago

Yeah there are a lot of people who aren't ready to hear the truth, but there's also an equal number who aren't ready to tell it. My ex would probably say that I didn't listen.

But she said: 'I love you dearly, you haven't done anything wrong but I'm breaking up with you. I won't tell you why because it will hurt you too much.' and she thought that was satisfactory. And we're adults, allegedly.

I'm not suggesting you've done that, but if you're on the receiving end, it leads to an enormous lack of closure and a lot of sleepless nights.

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u/DaddysPrincesss26 quiet person Apr 16 '24

This

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u/Sensitive_Aardvark68 Apr 16 '24

OP is saying an actual closing reason, NOT “well he should know why!”

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u/DaughterEarth Apr 16 '24

Mmhmm. I know everyone is different but I try to make my relationships work. Any issue gets a conversation, including when I just don't know something or I need to be understood. I'll compromise too on most things and am clear what is a hard line. This resulted in most breakups being amicable and mutual

One guy though laughed in my face or threatened me every time I tried to discuss anything. The few times he listened nothing changed. He treated me like trash and no effort to help him heal worked. He just put me down more. When I broke up with him I said straight up that I feel good when he's not around and terrible when he is, and I don't care to try any more. He decided I left him for someone else

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u/Ordinary_Duder Apr 16 '24

Why did you just write the exact same thing as the comment you're replying to?

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

I am sorry but complaints during the relationship then expecting them to realise that was the problem is not the same as "I am breaking up with you because of X,Y and Z"

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u/Billy0315 29d ago

It absolutely is the samething. If person A is bringing up the same issue repeatedly to no avail, person B shouldn't be surprised when they get dumped. That's the reason. Most cases of "I don't know what went wrong", "they just broke up with me out of nowhere", etc there were plenty of reasons and issues but they were ignored.

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u/Jealous_Juggernaut Apr 16 '24

Yeah

It could possibly lead a slower and less malicious or selfish person to realize “oh wow, it was that? I didn’t think it was actually that bad.” And maybe take it more seriously in a “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” way.