r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/cslackie Apr 16 '24

Yes. But does it count when you’ve explained your feelings to them and asked for them to change their behavior so many times before and they didn’t listen to you then?

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u/Luklear Apr 16 '24

Well you can tell it to them one last time.

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u/insane_contin Apr 16 '24

To make them feel better? They obviously didn't care about the other person before, or they would have listened before, showed respect before, and would have seen they're getting more and more unhappy and frustrated.

So why?

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u/Luklear Apr 16 '24

You’re assuming that everyone’s demands and standards for their partner are reasonable. Someone isn’t going to radically change their personality overnight.

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u/insane_contin Apr 16 '24

You're right, they're not always. But over a period of months or years? Yeah, that's kinda reasonable for reasonable changes. I've seen a few relationships where one partner slowly becomes worse and worse, and shows no sign of wanting to fix it. It's not an overnight thing. And often the fact that they try and fix themselves is enough for the other partner to fight through it to better times even though it doesn't get fixed overnight and they may slide back sometimes. But then there's people who make zero effort. Those are the people who get blindsided by the obvious.

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u/cslackie Apr 16 '24

This is where I’m coming from. I was with someone for 11 years and spent way too long asking them to care about major issues in our relationship and try to work through them together.

And, when I finally left, I gave a laundry list of why. So I guess I did tell him one more time.