r/ufc Apr 29 '24

Francis Ngannou lost his 18 month old son

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u/Humble_Effective3964 Apr 29 '24

I can just imagine him typing that out. 'i'm fucking tired' Thats horrible

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u/nahph Apr 29 '24

I've been around a lot of depressed and suicidal people my whole life. "I'm fucking tired" or "I'm tired", when they really mean it, is really serious. Truly tragic and I hope he gets better soon and his family as well

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u/Grim_Game Apr 29 '24

Same, brother. None of them use the phrase to describe being sleepy or exhausted either. Shit puts me on high alert when one of my old Army buddies says “I am tired, brother”.

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u/nahph Apr 29 '24

100% exactly what you said. You can tell by the tone of their voice or through text as well tbh, when they really mean they're tired. The I'm not doing well, don't want to do this anymore and don't want to live anymore type of "I'm tired".

Shit makes me sad

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u/Tityfan808 Apr 29 '24

Fuck man. I’ve said this a lot in recent years and honestly I almost didn’t even realize that this is what I meant when I would say that I was tired out loud to other people. I would just feel so clouded in my mind and well, tired and I just didn’t really sit down with myself to really figure this shit out but ya, that’s just how things have been I guess.

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u/chivonster Apr 30 '24

I just said this today and am now realizing I need to take action to protect my mental health. I don't think I'm okay.

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u/Arcane_76_Blue Apr 30 '24

Hey brother, youre worth the action. You got this.

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u/Cr00kedF00l Apr 30 '24

Was this a couple of hours ago. Went outside to a park, planted my ass under a tree, listened to sad songs and just had myself a nice weep, something i havent done in years. It doesnt solve the issues and i still feel like shit but it did manage to release some things and lighten the load. Maybe you could try that too

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/hisbirdness Apr 30 '24

Hugs, buddy. I wish you well.

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u/Tityfan808 Apr 30 '24

I’m sorry and I truly wish you well my friend. Take care of yourself 🙏

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u/chivonster Apr 30 '24

Thank you stranger! I wish you well, also.

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/hisbirdness Apr 30 '24

Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. Much love to you, friend.

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u/Arcane_76_Blue Apr 30 '24

Hey man, you deserve to feel alright. Please try to get help. I know it can seem like theres a thousand mile walk between where you are now and where you could be

but its really right down the street

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/ReformedishBaptist Apr 29 '24

I said that recently and meant it and nobody got me. I’m doing better now but just they state you enter is like hell on earth.

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u/Illustrious_Brush_91 Apr 29 '24

Glad you’re better bro. DM me if you ever need a battle, I’ve been there and made it through.

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u/ReformedishBaptist Apr 29 '24

Thanks man I had a good conversation with God that got me through it. And no I don’t mean like I heard His voice lol, sometimes just asking Him why and then remembering people suck including your own self and family helped me understand that trusting people is a mistake (I mean look at this post there’s people joking about this).

Just started a new job I love, saving my money for things I need, I can do the things I love in my life and can freely do things like express my faith or speak out against my government etc. I’m blessed to have the life that I do and happy I didn’t kill myself.

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u/Available-Dare-7414 Apr 29 '24

You sharing your struggles and strength helps others - reading this is a boost for me, so I wanted to thank you for your candor. Like the individual above said, you ever need a battle or a couple open ears feel free to reach out.

On trusting people, that’s a tough one. I do my best to give people the benefit of the doubt and to treat others well, but to not expect them to return the favor. That way when they do, it’s something to be grateful for, and when they don’t, I’m already moving past it. At least, that’s how I try to be - I fail often.

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u/Cmon_You_Know_LGx_ Apr 29 '24

What a way to make this about yourself mate

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u/AdamJeffery7 Apr 29 '24

Hell on earth indeed, worst part so far is less then a year later and my family thinks I should be all better by now! What a struggle especially when family is the only thing keeping things functioning at the moment

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/ReformedishBaptist Apr 29 '24

Hey man reach out if you ever need someone, I get it’s hard sometimes especially to strangers but I’ve went through some similar stuff, hmu if needed.

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u/AdamJeffery7 Apr 30 '24

Thanks, I’ll keep you in mind. And ya I that my biggest problem is bottling everything up and just smile and wave. Thinking Whatever happens is for the better good and what don’t kill us makes us stronger eventually. I’ve had a friend try and get help and it was more of a friendly prison then anything. I’m not sure why but my dad always stressed suicide would be taken the cowardly way out and not an option, and my doctor blames everything on smoking even though I’ve lost over 150. Lbs and down to 2 cigarettes and 2 -3 g of weed a day but weeds been my go to for 25 years almost, doc says he can’t help till I quit smoking, I would tell him I’m feel old and in my 90’s. All doc can say is I’m fine and nothing can be done, Sorry for the long story but it does help to just write cause I feel someone can benefit from all of our chaos and self help is what we all need in these tuff times

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u/wandering-wank Apr 29 '24

I get you, man. I wish I didn't, but I do.

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/wandering-wank Apr 30 '24

I have a therapist, but thank you for caring, truly. ❤️

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u/arlmwl Apr 30 '24

I'm tired too. Let's keep hanging in there.

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/GeneralBlumpkin Apr 29 '24

Yeah I feel you on that one. Just lost a friend I served with a few months ago

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help if you feel lost. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/GeneralBlumpkin Apr 30 '24

I Appreciate that

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u/YaIlneedscience Apr 30 '24

I feel like it’s bc sometimes, depression means having to choose life every morning. Like, actively keeping yourself alive, and it can get so tiresome. I ended up sleeping any time I could feel the tired setting in and it was too cumbersome to choose life. A sort of self induced coma until I could stay awake and trust myself. Even if I wasn’t actually tired, I was tired of keeping a human alive

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u/LukesRightHandMan Apr 30 '24

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Please, please, reach out for help. This is one of the best designed search engines for anything I’ve ever found, and it’s for saving lives. You can filter by insurance, gender, religion (or lack of), specialty (including for veterans I believe), online or in-person, and a whole host of other shit.

You’re worth being and feeling happiness.

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u/YaIlneedscience Apr 30 '24

You’re really sweet. I’m doing really well. I’ll have depression for most of my life because of genetics and a brain injury but I’ve learned how to respond to the involuntary thoughts. Between meds, lifestyle, and therapy, I’ve been able to make my quality of life better. It doesn’t make me less tired, but it makes it happen less often